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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 668170" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Same reason mothers do.</p><p></p><p>I remember asking my mother if my grandfather, who was extremely quiet (I almost have no memories of him even though he came over a lot) favored her or my uncle. I knew that my mother said all the time that grandmother favored uncle (her brother) and that was obvious.</p><p></p><p>My mother answered something like, "Oh, yeah. Vain was his favorite. It was obvious."</p><p></p><p>That surprised me because Grandpa did not speak unless Grandma gave him permission...lolol. I didn't know if he spoke enough in his own nuclear family for my mother to know <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />.</p><p></p><p>Must have been painful for my mother to know both parents so obviously favored Uncle Vain, who I think was more vile than my mother in many ways. If my mother had not carried on the grand family tradition of divide and conquer and favorites, lost children and scapegoats (being me), I would have probably felt very bad for her, knowing that she was obviously second place to her parents. At least my dad shows no favoritism and is just as likely to say something ugly about Sis and Bro to me as he probably says about me to them. He truly has no favorites, but, in spite of being a bit rough, he does love us all and it must drive Sis nuts that she can't change that or "make him see." She really does think that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 668170, member: 1550"] Same reason mothers do. I remember asking my mother if my grandfather, who was extremely quiet (I almost have no memories of him even though he came over a lot) favored her or my uncle. I knew that my mother said all the time that grandmother favored uncle (her brother) and that was obvious. My mother answered something like, "Oh, yeah. Vain was his favorite. It was obvious." That surprised me because Grandpa did not speak unless Grandma gave him permission...lolol. I didn't know if he spoke enough in his own nuclear family for my mother to know :). Must have been painful for my mother to know both parents so obviously favored Uncle Vain, who I think was more vile than my mother in many ways. If my mother had not carried on the grand family tradition of divide and conquer and favorites, lost children and scapegoats (being me), I would have probably felt very bad for her, knowing that she was obviously second place to her parents. At least my dad shows no favoritism and is just as likely to say something ugly about Sis and Bro to me as he probably says about me to them. He truly has no favorites, but, in spite of being a bit rough, he does love us all and it must drive Sis nuts that she can't change that or "make him see." She really does think that way. [/QUOTE]
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