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<blockquote data-quote="HowMuchLonger" data-source="post: 411565" data-attributes="member: 11280"><p>I have tried this as well, but as others have said, his age may be a factor in not being able to realistically answer this. Also, as daisy and klmno have said the actions don't match the requests. He continues to blame his behaviours on his brothers, father, me, teachers, peers, GOD, anyone and anything and although there are plenty of times his brothers instigate a fight...99% of the time it's him. So he'll say he wants to spend more time with me, when in fact I spend the greatest amount of time with him compared to any in the family. Or he'll say I don't spend time with him yet as soon as school's out he runs out the door to play. Comes in, eats dinner and then goes to play on his computer or video games when I'm there ready and willing to spend time with him. But suddenly at 8pm when its almost bedtime he'll ask if I want to cuddle with him and watch tv but it's now bedtime. Or he'll come in from playing and say "let's do xyz" and I'm now in the middle of making dinner so say "give me 20 mins" and that's not good enough. So it has to be the exact minute he wants it and that's just not realistic. He wants me to stop his brothers from "picking on him"...reality - they don't, or don't start with him until they've had it with HIM picking on them! He wants me to buy him a special mattress, memory foam pillows, duvet, etc etc etc etc etc to help him sleep better because according to him "i dont sleep well thats why I rage". reality - every night we check on him repeatedly and he's sleeping soundly and gets an average of 10.5 hrs sleep at night. </p><p></p><p>I'm hoping once he comes back to reality or is able to actually express what hsi problems are rather than making them up or repeating what the "experts" have put into his head we may be able to get somewhere</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HowMuchLonger, post: 411565, member: 11280"] I have tried this as well, but as others have said, his age may be a factor in not being able to realistically answer this. Also, as daisy and klmno have said the actions don't match the requests. He continues to blame his behaviours on his brothers, father, me, teachers, peers, GOD, anyone and anything and although there are plenty of times his brothers instigate a fight...99% of the time it's him. So he'll say he wants to spend more time with me, when in fact I spend the greatest amount of time with him compared to any in the family. Or he'll say I don't spend time with him yet as soon as school's out he runs out the door to play. Comes in, eats dinner and then goes to play on his computer or video games when I'm there ready and willing to spend time with him. But suddenly at 8pm when its almost bedtime he'll ask if I want to cuddle with him and watch tv but it's now bedtime. Or he'll come in from playing and say "let's do xyz" and I'm now in the middle of making dinner so say "give me 20 mins" and that's not good enough. So it has to be the exact minute he wants it and that's just not realistic. He wants me to stop his brothers from "picking on him"...reality - they don't, or don't start with him until they've had it with HIM picking on them! He wants me to buy him a special mattress, memory foam pillows, duvet, etc etc etc etc etc to help him sleep better because according to him "i dont sleep well thats why I rage". reality - every night we check on him repeatedly and he's sleeping soundly and gets an average of 10.5 hrs sleep at night. I'm hoping once he comes back to reality or is able to actually express what hsi problems are rather than making them up or repeating what the "experts" have put into his head we may be able to get somewhere [/QUOTE]
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