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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 412066" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Linda, I think this is a balancing act that most parents do with all teens, we just dont actually verbalize it. Its that rope and hanging thing. We hope we give them enough rope but they dont have enough that they can actually hang themselves with it. </p><p></p><p>When they are baby's we dont just throw them in the floor and walk away figuring they will somehow get the bottle in their mouths. No, we feed them but eventually we do hand them the spoon and a cup and teach them how and then let them have at it. Sure it gets messy and there is more food and milk on them and the floor than they probably get inside them but its a learning experience. They get better with time. Same with walking, talking, riding a bike, and all else that our little wonders do.</p><p></p><p>It just gets more important or scary as they get closer to age 18. They can do so much more damage to their lives. We really cant save them anymore. We cant catch them when they start to stumble and fall. We cant kiss the owies away anymore. </p><p></p><p>I remember that we started letting Jamie have more freedoms as he started into HS. He didnt need as much supervision from us because we knew who he was friends with and we knew pretty much where he was always going to be. However, when he messed up, he got that trust revoked bigtime. Cory was so insulted that he wasnt allowed the same access to freedom that Jamie was. Oh well...</p><p></p><p>If I asked Cory that question today? He would still want me to baby him...lol. I am NOT asking him!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 412066, member: 1514"] Linda, I think this is a balancing act that most parents do with all teens, we just dont actually verbalize it. Its that rope and hanging thing. We hope we give them enough rope but they dont have enough that they can actually hang themselves with it. When they are baby's we dont just throw them in the floor and walk away figuring they will somehow get the bottle in their mouths. No, we feed them but eventually we do hand them the spoon and a cup and teach them how and then let them have at it. Sure it gets messy and there is more food and milk on them and the floor than they probably get inside them but its a learning experience. They get better with time. Same with walking, talking, riding a bike, and all else that our little wonders do. It just gets more important or scary as they get closer to age 18. They can do so much more damage to their lives. We really cant save them anymore. We cant catch them when they start to stumble and fall. We cant kiss the owies away anymore. I remember that we started letting Jamie have more freedoms as he started into HS. He didnt need as much supervision from us because we knew who he was friends with and we knew pretty much where he was always going to be. However, when he messed up, he got that trust revoked bigtime. Cory was so insulted that he wasnt allowed the same access to freedom that Jamie was. Oh well... If I asked Cory that question today? He would still want me to baby him...lol. I am NOT asking him! [/QUOTE]
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