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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 614571" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Wow! What a mess. Feel for you.</p><p></p><p>Who diagnosed him as only having severe ADHD? His symptoms do seem like they could be attachment issues or a mental health disorder. That is certainly not typical behavior...and was he exposed to drugs and alcohol in utero? That could be a big factor as well. I am just a layperson, but I did do foster care/adoption and this kid is probably a lot more than just ADHD...and his early years were very disruptive. Do you monitor him all the time when he is around other children? I want to add, that it is normal to masturbate, however, it is a bit odd to do it in front of people once the child is old enough to know better. Does he exhibit other sexual behaviors? Frankly, I think he sounds classicaly attachment disordered along with maybe some mood disorders, but, hey, I'm not the one who can diagnose. I do highly recommend getting another opinion by a highly credentialed professional. A neuropsychologist is very good usually, but they are not that "on top" of attachment disorder. Really, every professional is so specialized these days, it is mindboggling to get our kids into the right categories so that they can get help. Most likely, this child has many different issues going on at once. Does he play with fire?</p><p></p><p>Has he been dangerous to your other kids? That would determine for me, at least, what to do next.</p><p></p><p>Really, really sorry you had to come back. You and your hub need to have serious "us" time away from him so you can recoup. Do you use respite services? You really need to enjoy yourselves in spite of having a very difficult child. Also, I would try hard, if possible, to make sure the other kids get a lot of attention too. This child sounds all-consuming, which isn't anyone's fault, but...you know. Kids are kids. They all need to feel special. I assume they are afraid of or resentful of this child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 614571, member: 1550"] Hi there. Wow! What a mess. Feel for you. Who diagnosed him as only having severe ADHD? His symptoms do seem like they could be attachment issues or a mental health disorder. That is certainly not typical behavior...and was he exposed to drugs and alcohol in utero? That could be a big factor as well. I am just a layperson, but I did do foster care/adoption and this kid is probably a lot more than just ADHD...and his early years were very disruptive. Do you monitor him all the time when he is around other children? I want to add, that it is normal to masturbate, however, it is a bit odd to do it in front of people once the child is old enough to know better. Does he exhibit other sexual behaviors? Frankly, I think he sounds classicaly attachment disordered along with maybe some mood disorders, but, hey, I'm not the one who can diagnose. I do highly recommend getting another opinion by a highly credentialed professional. A neuropsychologist is very good usually, but they are not that "on top" of attachment disorder. Really, every professional is so specialized these days, it is mindboggling to get our kids into the right categories so that they can get help. Most likely, this child has many different issues going on at once. Does he play with fire? Has he been dangerous to your other kids? That would determine for me, at least, what to do next. Really, really sorry you had to come back. You and your hub need to have serious "us" time away from him so you can recoup. Do you use respite services? You really need to enjoy yourselves in spite of having a very difficult child. Also, I would try hard, if possible, to make sure the other kids get a lot of attention too. This child sounds all-consuming, which isn't anyone's fault, but...you know. Kids are kids. They all need to feel special. I assume they are afraid of or resentful of this child. [/QUOTE]
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