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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 640810" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>2M2R, I know exactly how you feel. My difficult child fits the sociopath profile to a T. Master manipulator and can be ever so charming. I remember when we started having trouble with our difficult child. We started family counseling and one of the things the counselor ordered was an IQ test. My 14 year old difficult child scores 140 which is border line genius. It has always boggled my mind how he can have such high intelligence and no common sense.</p><p></p><p>I have learned over the years the healthiest thing for me to do to maintain my sanity is completely detach. I just got to the point that I could no longer take the roller coaster ride with him.</p><p></p><p>Because of his high intelligence he is able to read a book and completely retain the information which in his mind makes him an authority on everything. Again, he does not have any common sense to temper the knowledge. Since he is an "authority" on everything there is no arguing with him. He has an amazing knack for turning things around on you. When I would try and talk to him about the poor choices he was making he would end up talking in circles leaving me feeling confused, defeated, exhausted and hurt.</p><p></p><p>I remember times when I would look into his eyes and they were so dark. I remember how he would go into fits of rage, clenching his fists and screaming in my face and an hour later could be sweet as pie. He terrified me.</p><p></p><p>He could also be so charming. He has no trouble attracting girls, they think he's smart and funny and they love that he is a great artist. Of course he can't maintain a relationship, these girls always end up hurt and hating him. He can only keep the masquerade going for so long before his true nature comes out.</p><p></p><p>I went through so much with my difficult child. My husband and I bent over backwards trying to help him. He was really good at pulling the wool over our eyes. He played the role well in telling us what we wanted to hear and making it appear that he was doing good but again he could only keep the masquerade going for so long. This cycle went on for several years. In and out of jail, we would help, he would screw up and so on and so on.</p><p></p><p>Yes indeed, my difficult child has it all, good looks, high IQ, talented artist, oh wait, he's homeless too, oh and it's all my fault so he likes to say. Again, so glad I chose to get off the roller coaster.</p><p></p><p>I very rarely hear from him and if I do it's because he wants something. He never calls to ask how I or my husband are doing. It's all about him and only him.</p><p></p><p>He abandoned his two children. When my granddaughter had to have emergency surgery he couldn't be bothered. His answer for not being there was "I've got my own stuff to deal with right now" Again, he only thinks of himself.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you are having to deal with what you are going through. I hope and pray that you will be able to break away and free yourself so that you can live your life for you, so that you can find joy in your life.</p><p></p><p>Supporting you and sending you hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 640810, member: 18516"] 2M2R, I know exactly how you feel. My difficult child fits the sociopath profile to a T. Master manipulator and can be ever so charming. I remember when we started having trouble with our difficult child. We started family counseling and one of the things the counselor ordered was an IQ test. My 14 year old difficult child scores 140 which is border line genius. It has always boggled my mind how he can have such high intelligence and no common sense. I have learned over the years the healthiest thing for me to do to maintain my sanity is completely detach. I just got to the point that I could no longer take the roller coaster ride with him. Because of his high intelligence he is able to read a book and completely retain the information which in his mind makes him an authority on everything. Again, he does not have any common sense to temper the knowledge. Since he is an "authority" on everything there is no arguing with him. He has an amazing knack for turning things around on you. When I would try and talk to him about the poor choices he was making he would end up talking in circles leaving me feeling confused, defeated, exhausted and hurt. I remember times when I would look into his eyes and they were so dark. I remember how he would go into fits of rage, clenching his fists and screaming in my face and an hour later could be sweet as pie. He terrified me. He could also be so charming. He has no trouble attracting girls, they think he's smart and funny and they love that he is a great artist. Of course he can't maintain a relationship, these girls always end up hurt and hating him. He can only keep the masquerade going for so long before his true nature comes out. I went through so much with my difficult child. My husband and I bent over backwards trying to help him. He was really good at pulling the wool over our eyes. He played the role well in telling us what we wanted to hear and making it appear that he was doing good but again he could only keep the masquerade going for so long. This cycle went on for several years. In and out of jail, we would help, he would screw up and so on and so on. Yes indeed, my difficult child has it all, good looks, high IQ, talented artist, oh wait, he's homeless too, oh and it's all my fault so he likes to say. Again, so glad I chose to get off the roller coaster. I very rarely hear from him and if I do it's because he wants something. He never calls to ask how I or my husband are doing. It's all about him and only him. He abandoned his two children. When my granddaughter had to have emergency surgery he couldn't be bothered. His answer for not being there was "I've got my own stuff to deal with right now" Again, he only thinks of himself. I am so sorry that you are having to deal with what you are going through. I hope and pray that you will be able to break away and free yourself so that you can live your life for you, so that you can find joy in your life. Supporting you and sending you hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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