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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 738054" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>PrayForUs, so sorry that this has happened again...and again. It is hard to believe that your heart can still have any pieces left after each "episode". </p><p></p><p>It is definitely difficult when you and your spouse are at different stages of detachment (or acceptance). Don't let this define you as a couple. Right now, your son is counting on your quick fixes, so that he can get back to what he wants to do. The girlfriend is just a distraction. </p><p></p><p>I found that early on my husband was not coping well with daughter's issues - he wanted to rescue his "little girl" but at the same time was mentally/emotionally suffering himself. We finally got to a stage where we "negotiated" a plan of what our upper and lower limit was. That worked really well because hubby could offer a little assistance to her (he felt that he was helping 'fix' and I was happy that our boundary stayed up). Now we are at the same place and, for the most part, succeeding with detachment (thanks to my friends here)! But we have had many setbacks along the way - parents are human and our love/hopes for our children will never cease. Our daughter does not want to change and we are powerless. We are trying to accept it.</p><p></p><p>Make time for self-care and time for your marriage. You will thrive off of each other if you stay healthy, strong and united.</p><p></p><p>Sending you hugs and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 738054, member: 355"] PrayForUs, so sorry that this has happened again...and again. It is hard to believe that your heart can still have any pieces left after each "episode". It is definitely difficult when you and your spouse are at different stages of detachment (or acceptance). Don't let this define you as a couple. Right now, your son is counting on your quick fixes, so that he can get back to what he wants to do. The girlfriend is just a distraction. I found that early on my husband was not coping well with daughter's issues - he wanted to rescue his "little girl" but at the same time was mentally/emotionally suffering himself. We finally got to a stage where we "negotiated" a plan of what our upper and lower limit was. That worked really well because hubby could offer a little assistance to her (he felt that he was helping 'fix' and I was happy that our boundary stayed up). Now we are at the same place and, for the most part, succeeding with detachment (thanks to my friends here)! But we have had many setbacks along the way - parents are human and our love/hopes for our children will never cease. Our daughter does not want to change and we are powerless. We are trying to accept it. Make time for self-care and time for your marriage. You will thrive off of each other if you stay healthy, strong and united. Sending you hugs and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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