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<blockquote data-quote="dun4" data-source="post: 295710" data-attributes="member: 7792"><p>Thanks for your comments Rannveig and Dammit Janet. My difficult child has been seeing a psychiatrist since April. The dr. diagnosis him as ODD but did say that there could very well be something more going on, but he needs more time to figure things out. As for mental illness in the family. None have ever been diagnosed by a dr., but I've made my guesses. My ex mother in law was a compulsive liar, believe ex father in law to be an alcoholic and abusive, 2 ex sister in law ended up in jail for embezzling. I believe my mother suffers from something, she has always been emotionally cruel to me (she says it's my middle child syndrome). She currently told my easy child she didn't want to be around me because of how I'm handling difficult child. Told my Dad difficult child's problems were my fault because I tried to send him to youth crisis center went he was threatening to run away. She has recently expanded her cruelty to my father and my easy child. She hasn't been to bad to easy child yet. She was recently put on a mild drug (don't know what) for depression. My ex also lies without guilt. I suffered anxiety attacks during college, but was living in MN where you never see the sun during the winter. Once I moved west again they stopped. Haven't had an attack in 20 years. I think I'm one of those people that need more sunlight.</p><p> </p><p>At the same time his behavior spiraled, he told me he'd gotten his girlfriend pregnant. She supposedly lost the baby when they split up. I know she was trying to give him a guilt trip. I talked till I was blue in the face getting him to believe that just breaking up with someone won't make them miscarry unless there's something else wrong. I also told him home tests can be wrong. They did 3 tests all came back positive but when she went to the dr. for verification, she wasn't. He was heartbroken at losing his child. Doing home child care has it's drawbacks. Neither of my sons are scared of children. They enjoy kids. When my easy child found out his girlfriend was pregnant when he was 17 he was ecstatic. I worry both my sons want to prove to their Dad that they'll be better fathers than he's ever been to them. difficult child keeps saying he can't wait to be an adult.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child has had a good weekend. Says he's thought about it and seems to trace his anger back to when he was jumped in the fall. He keeps denying he wanted to drop out of school, even tho those were his exact words and he flunked every class 4th quarter. He now claims he just wanted to take his summer break early, and he has every intention of finishing school. We'll see. When he becomes frustrated, he gets angry, and then you've lost him. I've got a call into the school to see what we can get set up for him, but of course the counselors aren't working full time yet so nothing's happened. I'm worried because he only registered for classes half a day because he'd planned on taking college classes in the afternoon. Now he needs to add 4 more classes and wants to change the college prep classes he took. The school's going to force him to take whatever's still open, and they'll be classes he won't like and he won't finish them. School starts on the 17th here so we'll see. I'm hoping since he'll be a senior maybe that will be enough to get him through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dun4, post: 295710, member: 7792"] Thanks for your comments Rannveig and Dammit Janet. My difficult child has been seeing a psychiatrist since April. The dr. diagnosis him as ODD but did say that there could very well be something more going on, but he needs more time to figure things out. As for mental illness in the family. None have ever been diagnosed by a dr., but I've made my guesses. My ex mother in law was a compulsive liar, believe ex father in law to be an alcoholic and abusive, 2 ex sister in law ended up in jail for embezzling. I believe my mother suffers from something, she has always been emotionally cruel to me (she says it's my middle child syndrome). She currently told my easy child she didn't want to be around me because of how I'm handling difficult child. Told my Dad difficult child's problems were my fault because I tried to send him to youth crisis center went he was threatening to run away. She has recently expanded her cruelty to my father and my easy child. She hasn't been to bad to easy child yet. She was recently put on a mild drug (don't know what) for depression. My ex also lies without guilt. I suffered anxiety attacks during college, but was living in MN where you never see the sun during the winter. Once I moved west again they stopped. Haven't had an attack in 20 years. I think I'm one of those people that need more sunlight. At the same time his behavior spiraled, he told me he'd gotten his girlfriend pregnant. She supposedly lost the baby when they split up. I know she was trying to give him a guilt trip. I talked till I was blue in the face getting him to believe that just breaking up with someone won't make them miscarry unless there's something else wrong. I also told him home tests can be wrong. They did 3 tests all came back positive but when she went to the dr. for verification, she wasn't. He was heartbroken at losing his child. Doing home child care has it's drawbacks. Neither of my sons are scared of children. They enjoy kids. When my easy child found out his girlfriend was pregnant when he was 17 he was ecstatic. I worry both my sons want to prove to their Dad that they'll be better fathers than he's ever been to them. difficult child keeps saying he can't wait to be an adult. difficult child has had a good weekend. Says he's thought about it and seems to trace his anger back to when he was jumped in the fall. He keeps denying he wanted to drop out of school, even tho those were his exact words and he flunked every class 4th quarter. He now claims he just wanted to take his summer break early, and he has every intention of finishing school. We'll see. When he becomes frustrated, he gets angry, and then you've lost him. I've got a call into the school to see what we can get set up for him, but of course the counselors aren't working full time yet so nothing's happened. I'm worried because he only registered for classes half a day because he'd planned on taking college classes in the afternoon. Now he needs to add 4 more classes and wants to change the college prep classes he took. The school's going to force him to take whatever's still open, and they'll be classes he won't like and he won't finish them. School starts on the 17th here so we'll see. I'm hoping since he'll be a senior maybe that will be enough to get him through. [/QUOTE]
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