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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 393359" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Terry, if you just posted today to vent and find understanding ears, then I want to say <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sorrysmiley.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sorrysmiley:" title="sorrysmiley :sorrysmiley:" data-shortname=":sorrysmiley:" /> and you should stop reading here. </p><p> </p><p>If you are serious about wanting to break out of this, then read on.</p><p> </p><p>in my opinion, you seriously need to take Fran's advice to heart "If you keep on doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you got." </p><p> </p><p>I know it's been suggested to you many times to go beyond counseling and books and look into some sort of residential treatment. I don't get a chance to read all of your posts so I might have missed it if you followed through, but have you done any serious looking and inquiring about insurance, etc? My concern for HIM is that the more engrained the behaviors, the harder they are to change and books, counseling, and medications don't seem to be making much difference. He's 13 now and as a mother of high schoolers I can tell you with certainty that 18 is right around the corner.</p><p> </p><p>My concern for YOU is that it takes an incredible emotional and physical toll on a mother to go on year after year without seeing forward results. Soemtimes there's a tendency to "get stuck" when you have a kid who isn't responsive to treatment and think you've done all that you can, when in reality you've done all you can within the parameters you've chosen and/or have available to you (ie nearby counselors, in-home vs. residential, preferred school district, etc.). If you've done everything you possibly can for him under your roof and he still isn't budging, then you probably need to look outside those parameters if you have any hope of making a difference in the five years you legally have left to influence the outcome.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 393359, member: 701"] Terry, if you just posted today to vent and find understanding ears, then I want to say :sorrysmiley: and you should stop reading here. If you are serious about wanting to break out of this, then read on. in my opinion, you seriously need to take Fran's advice to heart "If you keep on doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you got." I know it's been suggested to you many times to go beyond counseling and books and look into some sort of residential treatment. I don't get a chance to read all of your posts so I might have missed it if you followed through, but have you done any serious looking and inquiring about insurance, etc? My concern for HIM is that the more engrained the behaviors, the harder they are to change and books, counseling, and medications don't seem to be making much difference. He's 13 now and as a mother of high schoolers I can tell you with certainty that 18 is right around the corner. My concern for YOU is that it takes an incredible emotional and physical toll on a mother to go on year after year without seeing forward results. Soemtimes there's a tendency to "get stuck" when you have a kid who isn't responsive to treatment and think you've done all that you can, when in reality you've done all you can within the parameters you've chosen and/or have available to you (ie nearby counselors, in-home vs. residential, preferred school district, etc.). If you've done everything you possibly can for him under your roof and he still isn't budging, then you probably need to look outside those parameters if you have any hope of making a difference in the five years you legally have left to influence the outcome. [/QUOTE]
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