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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 91318" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm definitely with DDD. It doesn't have to be a big deal, just something like, "Dad said he told you about his girlfriend today." You don't need to make any value judgements yourself or ask her to comment on how she feels. She undoubtedly already will come to you if she needs to talk about it, once she knows you already know about it too. Adding in, "If you want to talk about it, I'm here," COULD make it look like you are wanting to pump her for information. If she DOES talk about it and expresses anger with his girlfriend for breaking you two up, I do think you need to make it clear it's not girlfriend's fault, nor is it easy child's. This break-up is between you and husband, girlfriend is entirely between S2BX and girlfriend. She didn't come between you - the rift was already there.</p><p></p><p>Let easy child get to know girlfriend if you think she can handle seeing girlfriend not be around for long. As easy child sees the sequence of GFs pass through S2BX's life, she will get the picture loud and clear without you ever having to say a thing.</p><p></p><p>I had a fiancé like S2BX once. I worked out afterwards, he was two-timing me constantly. Then despite the fact that HE broke up with me, he made a point of trying to make me jealous with a girl he saw a lot of. He kept telling all our friends how devoted to him this girl was, how much nicer she was than me, how serious their new relationship was. I got my revenge on him when I made friends with her and everybody could see that she was friendly to him but nothing more. She & I would go shopping together, have lunch together while he tried to bluff his way with our friends.</p><p>And the most important thing - I learned very quickly that it felt much nicer being a friend to her (and hanging around with creep-features, I knew she would need a friend if she were at all serious about him) than in moping around feeling jealous.</p><p></p><p>I'm not suggesting you go out and make friends with the new girlfriend - it's probably still a bit too raw for you to even consider that. But think about it from her point of view - this persuasive man has swept her off her feet and just told her he is freshly separated and needing to be cherished and given TLC for his hurting heart - there are a lot of vulnerable, naive women out there who will believe every word he says. And who, from his recent behaviour, will get hurt in a matter of weeks.</p><p></p><p>And they are not you - isn't that good?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 91318, member: 1991"] I'm definitely with DDD. It doesn't have to be a big deal, just something like, "Dad said he told you about his girlfriend today." You don't need to make any value judgements yourself or ask her to comment on how she feels. She undoubtedly already will come to you if she needs to talk about it, once she knows you already know about it too. Adding in, "If you want to talk about it, I'm here," COULD make it look like you are wanting to pump her for information. If she DOES talk about it and expresses anger with his girlfriend for breaking you two up, I do think you need to make it clear it's not girlfriend's fault, nor is it easy child's. This break-up is between you and husband, girlfriend is entirely between S2BX and girlfriend. She didn't come between you - the rift was already there. Let easy child get to know girlfriend if you think she can handle seeing girlfriend not be around for long. As easy child sees the sequence of GFs pass through S2BX's life, she will get the picture loud and clear without you ever having to say a thing. I had a fiancé like S2BX once. I worked out afterwards, he was two-timing me constantly. Then despite the fact that HE broke up with me, he made a point of trying to make me jealous with a girl he saw a lot of. He kept telling all our friends how devoted to him this girl was, how much nicer she was than me, how serious their new relationship was. I got my revenge on him when I made friends with her and everybody could see that she was friendly to him but nothing more. She & I would go shopping together, have lunch together while he tried to bluff his way with our friends. And the most important thing - I learned very quickly that it felt much nicer being a friend to her (and hanging around with creep-features, I knew she would need a friend if she were at all serious about him) than in moping around feeling jealous. I'm not suggesting you go out and make friends with the new girlfriend - it's probably still a bit too raw for you to even consider that. But think about it from her point of view - this persuasive man has swept her off her feet and just told her he is freshly separated and needing to be cherished and given TLC for his hurting heart - there are a lot of vulnerable, naive women out there who will believe every word he says. And who, from his recent behaviour, will get hurt in a matter of weeks. And they are not you - isn't that good? Marg [/QUOTE]
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