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<blockquote data-quote="in a daze" data-source="post: 663666" data-attributes="member: 15832"><p>(Quote) My son's life gets smaller and smaller. Of family and old friends nobody anymore tolerates him.</p><p></p><p>He too has diagnoses of anxiety, social anxiety and mood disorder. He has body dysmorphia too. He says he thinks he is ugly. I am not sure that this is really the case. I think he manipulates himself, so as to have an excuse to not risk.</p><p></p><p>The thing is everything in life is a risk.</p><p></p><p>I think this may be what frightens your son so that he prefers to come home, rather than try his hand to make a life, whatever it might be.</p><p></p><p>I think our sons might be afraid to cut loose. They fear what might not be there. Instead of embracing possibility.</p><p></p><p>Read more: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiJ6jSL1" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiJ6jSL1</a></p><p></p><p>Yes. My kid, like yours, is afraid to take a risk and try a new job. Instead stays in a job he hates because it's familiar. He's afraid to branch out and make new friends. He says he wants "a career" where he can support himself and make a living doing something he likes to do but makes no attempt to read about different occupations. Yes, he has had vocational testing.</p><p></p><p>Maybe our refusal to let him spend the night will send a subtle message to him. Maybe.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>(Quote) The more that I think about it, the more I think the issue pure and simple is dependency. I think that the hostility, anger, and resentment my son directs at me, results from his over-dependence on me.</p><p></p><p>Read more: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiMyF0XE" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiMyF0XE</a></p><p></p><p>I haven't experienced this first hand but I have read that teenagers can be very mean to their parents when they are feeling very dependent but still want to be independent. Maybe the case with your kid? They may be adults, but stuck at the adolescent level emotionally. Or maybe this is just psychbabble...check it out with your therapist if you have one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="in a daze, post: 663666, member: 15832"] (Quote) My son's life gets smaller and smaller. Of family and old friends nobody anymore tolerates him. He too has diagnoses of anxiety, social anxiety and mood disorder. He has body dysmorphia too. He says he thinks he is ugly. I am not sure that this is really the case. I think he manipulates himself, so as to have an excuse to not risk. The thing is everything in life is a risk. I think this may be what frightens your son so that he prefers to come home, rather than try his hand to make a life, whatever it might be. I think our sons might be afraid to cut loose. They fear what might not be there. Instead of embracing possibility. Read more: [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiJ6jSL1[/URL] Yes. My kid, like yours, is afraid to take a risk and try a new job. Instead stays in a job he hates because it's familiar. He's afraid to branch out and make new friends. He says he wants "a career" where he can support himself and make a living doing something he likes to do but makes no attempt to read about different occupations. Yes, he has had vocational testing. Maybe our refusal to let him spend the night will send a subtle message to him. Maybe. (Quote) The more that I think about it, the more I think the issue pure and simple is dependency. I think that the hostility, anger, and resentment my son directs at me, results from his over-dependence on me. Read more: [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/he-wants-to-spend-the-night.60755/#ixzz3hiMyF0XE[/URL] I haven't experienced this first hand but I have read that teenagers can be very mean to their parents when they are feeling very dependent but still want to be independent. Maybe the case with your kid? They may be adults, but stuck at the adolescent level emotionally. Or maybe this is just psychbabble...check it out with your therapist if you have one. [/QUOTE]
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