Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
He wants to try again...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 738676" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p style="margin-left: 20px">These adult kids of ours seem to have a radar for when we decide to pull away. They know how to get at the heart of us and keep us engaged.</p><p>Hard words to read, but I do agree with Swot that your son is “ toying” with you. I have read that detox from alcohol can be dangerous and needs to be medically supervised. It is cruel of him to expect his parents to sit there and wring your hands while he “may go into seizure.” It is emotionally abusive. You have already paid for him for treatment and he threw that money out the dang window. “Okay, now I really mean it” just doesn’t cut it. But how much does he mean? Living by all the fancy bars? </p><p>Trying, I am so sorry for all of this. It is hard. How does your husband feel about it? When hubs was alive, he wanted to stay connected with Rain. That meant he ended up after a long day at work, doing her laundry and making her a bite to eat. She dropped by weekly. It made me angry and sad, feeling like she was taking advantage of his love and kindness. He was so sad that she was homeless and on drugs.</p><p>I felt that the more we did for her, the deeper she dove.</p><p>It is hard to know what to do when we are gripped by fear, obligation and guilt. Our kids know just how to keep us sucked in. We all have been there, in different scenarios, trying to be strong, but in despair over our kids choices, caught up in their consequences, not knowing what to do. I am sorry for the heart ache.</p><p>Whatever you decide, we are circling the wagons and hoping for the best. For you, your husband and your dear son. </p><p>I have to say that it would be absolutely insane for him to detox in your hotel room. Geez, really? If he really wants to get clean, he will find a way. But that? That is torture and extremely unfair to his parents, who have given him chance after chance.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 738676, member: 19522"] [INDENT]These adult kids of ours seem to have a radar for when we decide to pull away. They know how to get at the heart of us and keep us engaged.[/INDENT] Hard words to read, but I do agree with Swot that your son is “ toying” with you. I have read that detox from alcohol can be dangerous and needs to be medically supervised. It is cruel of him to expect his parents to sit there and wring your hands while he “may go into seizure.” It is emotionally abusive. You have already paid for him for treatment and he threw that money out the dang window. “Okay, now I really mean it” just doesn’t cut it. But how much does he mean? Living by all the fancy bars? Trying, I am so sorry for all of this. It is hard. How does your husband feel about it? When hubs was alive, he wanted to stay connected with Rain. That meant he ended up after a long day at work, doing her laundry and making her a bite to eat. She dropped by weekly. It made me angry and sad, feeling like she was taking advantage of his love and kindness. He was so sad that she was homeless and on drugs. I felt that the more we did for her, the deeper she dove. It is hard to know what to do when we are gripped by fear, obligation and guilt. Our kids know just how to keep us sucked in. We all have been there, in different scenarios, trying to be strong, but in despair over our kids choices, caught up in their consequences, not knowing what to do. I am sorry for the heart ache. Whatever you decide, we are circling the wagons and hoping for the best. For you, your husband and your dear son. I have to say that it would be absolutely insane for him to detox in your hotel room. Geez, really? If he really wants to get clean, he will find a way. But that? That is torture and extremely unfair to his parents, who have given him chance after chance. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
He wants to try again...
Top