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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738744" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa be easy on yourself. You loved your son always. You did not teach him manipulation. He taught himself as they all do. As anyone can. Please do NOT blame tourself. The adults who bring us here did not learn to manipulate FROM us. They learned because they knew we loved them and did not want them to fail plus they did not want to change so they taught themselves mind games for our benefit. They are adults. They taught themselves to deceive us.</p><p></p><p>And its not just kids who do this Copa. Its about love. Anyone we love can play mind games with us and win until they overplay their hands. I use my sister, not to bash her, but to bash me. I let her cut me out of her life so many times call the cops yet still be in my life due to love. Was she wrong or me? Ok, I dont want to talk about her negatively ever again and am not doing so now. But love is powerful in ANY relationship. Look what others put up with for love. You are not alone by a longshot!</p><p></p><p>When one has more power than the other, the powerful one, if inclined to abuse the power, will do so. We let them back because of our love, in spite of outrageous behavior. Copa, this is NORMAL for those of us who love deeply. We give them so many chances. Until we cant. Until we burn out. Until it is survival. </p><p></p><p>Copa if you feel like it, you can always take your son out for a meal in a crowded restaurant just to make sure he is alive. Yes, that sounds silly, but it is an optuon with a reason.</p><p></p><p>Copa you did more than most for your son. He has to do it now. Or not. You gave him every chance to be decent.</p><p></p><p>Do what you must for yourself but dont blame yourself. Your son has a tough past and probably some unhealthy genetics that dont help him. That happened before you met him. You gave him many great menories and chances.</p><p></p><p>We cant control what they do with the gifts we give them. But you know that.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738744, member: 1550"] Copa be easy on yourself. You loved your son always. You did not teach him manipulation. He taught himself as they all do. As anyone can. Please do NOT blame tourself. The adults who bring us here did not learn to manipulate FROM us. They learned because they knew we loved them and did not want them to fail plus they did not want to change so they taught themselves mind games for our benefit. They are adults. They taught themselves to deceive us. And its not just kids who do this Copa. Its about love. Anyone we love can play mind games with us and win until they overplay their hands. I use my sister, not to bash her, but to bash me. I let her cut me out of her life so many times call the cops yet still be in my life due to love. Was she wrong or me? Ok, I dont want to talk about her negatively ever again and am not doing so now. But love is powerful in ANY relationship. Look what others put up with for love. You are not alone by a longshot! When one has more power than the other, the powerful one, if inclined to abuse the power, will do so. We let them back because of our love, in spite of outrageous behavior. Copa, this is NORMAL for those of us who love deeply. We give them so many chances. Until we cant. Until we burn out. Until it is survival. Copa if you feel like it, you can always take your son out for a meal in a crowded restaurant just to make sure he is alive. Yes, that sounds silly, but it is an optuon with a reason. Copa you did more than most for your son. He has to do it now. Or not. You gave him every chance to be decent. Do what you must for yourself but dont blame yourself. Your son has a tough past and probably some unhealthy genetics that dont help him. That happened before you met him. You gave him many great menories and chances. We cant control what they do with the gifts we give them. But you know that. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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