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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 586798" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>SuZir, I understand your concerns about letting go and "cracking." The conundrum is that even though most of us feel that way, that if we allow the intense feelings to surface, they will overcome us, it is exactly the opposite. The unexpressed, pent up feelings are what make us miserable, it is all the energy we use to hold them back that is so painful. Once they are allowed full reign, they subside. Think of it like a beach ball and all the energy it takes to hold it underwater, it's the same thing. The difficult part is the holding in part. Once the feelings are permitted to surface, more often then not in the form of crying, they are expressed, it is over. Babies and very young children are a wonderful example of emotional health, if you watch them, they cry, they kick their feet, they are screaming, however, assuming they are healthy and cared for, it quickly subsides. I've been told many times by my many therapists, that emotional health is allowing ourselves to express our emotions as a baby does, honestly, without holding back, without judging our feelings, allowing them to surface without any fears and then it's over. For all kinds of grown up reasons, we often do not follow this. It has also proven that the tears that one cries to release emotion are entirely different kinds of tears then from peeling an onion, allergies, etc. there is a component in that release that is restorative and healing and brings the body, mind spirit back to balance. </p><p></p><p>You are very busy, highly stressed, angry and holding in your feelings. These are all a negative recipe which can lead to illness or a stress related issue. Too much is on your plate. You are like a pressure cooker right now. Your idea of a weekend with a bottle seems more like a necessity then an option you can put off. Your dreams are telling you something, I think you should heed the message and find a way to express your feelings in a healthy way. Feelings are not to be held in, they are to be expressed. Gentle hugs coming your way SuZir, take care of <strong>YOU</strong> now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 586798, member: 13542"] SuZir, I understand your concerns about letting go and "cracking." The conundrum is that even though most of us feel that way, that if we allow the intense feelings to surface, they will overcome us, it is exactly the opposite. The unexpressed, pent up feelings are what make us miserable, it is all the energy we use to hold them back that is so painful. Once they are allowed full reign, they subside. Think of it like a beach ball and all the energy it takes to hold it underwater, it's the same thing. The difficult part is the holding in part. Once the feelings are permitted to surface, more often then not in the form of crying, they are expressed, it is over. Babies and very young children are a wonderful example of emotional health, if you watch them, they cry, they kick their feet, they are screaming, however, assuming they are healthy and cared for, it quickly subsides. I've been told many times by my many therapists, that emotional health is allowing ourselves to express our emotions as a baby does, honestly, without holding back, without judging our feelings, allowing them to surface without any fears and then it's over. For all kinds of grown up reasons, we often do not follow this. It has also proven that the tears that one cries to release emotion are entirely different kinds of tears then from peeling an onion, allergies, etc. there is a component in that release that is restorative and healing and brings the body, mind spirit back to balance. You are very busy, highly stressed, angry and holding in your feelings. These are all a negative recipe which can lead to illness or a stress related issue. Too much is on your plate. You are like a pressure cooker right now. Your idea of a weekend with a bottle seems more like a necessity then an option you can put off. Your dreams are telling you something, I think you should heed the message and find a way to express your feelings in a healthy way. Feelings are not to be held in, they are to be expressed. Gentle hugs coming your way SuZir, take care of [B]YOU[/B] now. [/QUOTE]
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