Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Heartbroken over lost dreams
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 574093" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm not sure what triggered your bout of melancoly but I'm sending understanding hugs. I know for a fact that many of us have had high IQ kids who opted for substances or legal issues and most every May or June you will see a post or two about how it makes us teary eyed...even years later. Some of us have had truly gifted athletes who worked hard to become the best and then...an evil coach, a weakness of spirit, alcohol or as in one case a physical injury ruined the expected future of a State champion girl athlete...whereas poor choices ended up yanking college and pro hopes for others. The thing is that it hurts to accept that your expected future is not going to be for your child.</p><p></p><p>I don't discount the depth of your feelings at all. on the other hand, I know from raising eight kids that it is really easy to have a picture in your mind for their future and then have to fall back and regroup. Please believe me that the most important thing you can contribute to your children's future is a sense of safety and comfort for who they really are and who they can really become as an adult member of society. Going to college does not assure happiness. Most of my family have been there done that and most of our children too. One of the happiest of our adult children has two "big" degrees and ended up being a self taught chef and vegetarian with dreds. His son (also gifted) dropped out before H.S. grad week and he is now truly happy growing organic vegetables in Maine.</p><p></p><p>Let yourself experience the heartbreak of lost dreams. Then, fall back and regroup. As a loving parent you will be able to support the child who works in a sheltered workshop with a trainer. You'll be able to be proud of the child who can hold down a full time job out in the "real" world. You will be able to be thankful every night that your children are safe and functioning. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 574093, member: 35"] I'm not sure what triggered your bout of melancoly but I'm sending understanding hugs. I know for a fact that many of us have had high IQ kids who opted for substances or legal issues and most every May or June you will see a post or two about how it makes us teary eyed...even years later. Some of us have had truly gifted athletes who worked hard to become the best and then...an evil coach, a weakness of spirit, alcohol or as in one case a physical injury ruined the expected future of a State champion girl athlete...whereas poor choices ended up yanking college and pro hopes for others. The thing is that it hurts to accept that your expected future is not going to be for your child. I don't discount the depth of your feelings at all. on the other hand, I know from raising eight kids that it is really easy to have a picture in your mind for their future and then have to fall back and regroup. Please believe me that the most important thing you can contribute to your children's future is a sense of safety and comfort for who they really are and who they can really become as an adult member of society. Going to college does not assure happiness. Most of my family have been there done that and most of our children too. One of the happiest of our adult children has two "big" degrees and ended up being a self taught chef and vegetarian with dreds. His son (also gifted) dropped out before H.S. grad week and he is now truly happy growing organic vegetables in Maine. Let yourself experience the heartbreak of lost dreams. Then, fall back and regroup. As a loving parent you will be able to support the child who works in a sheltered workshop with a trainer. You'll be able to be proud of the child who can hold down a full time job out in the "real" world. You will be able to be thankful every night that your children are safe and functioning. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Heartbroken over lost dreams
Top