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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 574142" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm sorry for your sadness and understand it well. And I'm sure adoption throws another twist into it.</p><p></p><p>I understand what you mean by missing not having a kid with higher IQ. My difficult child is not handsome or charming or likeable or warm and may not even end up to be a particularly good person. One of the very few things he has going for him is his intelligence. That and his talent in sport. And I'm embarrassed how relieved I'm that at least he has high IQ. If you would ask me, I would tell you like MWM that I appreciate other things much more than intellectual capacity. But deep inside of me there is a part that knows that even if I got to choose to trade my difficult child's intellect to social skills, charm, being a good friend and person; I just wouldn't do it. Even though I know that kind of change would probably make him much happier person. And even though he isn't currently planning to use his brains into anything but tries to make it with other talents.</p><p></p><p>With easy child I got extremely lucky. I got it all. While he may not have quite the same raw intellectual power than difficult child he is smart and he knows how to use that much better than difficult child. And he is a very wholesome boy. So I totally lucked out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 574142, member: 14557"] I'm sorry for your sadness and understand it well. And I'm sure adoption throws another twist into it. I understand what you mean by missing not having a kid with higher IQ. My difficult child is not handsome or charming or likeable or warm and may not even end up to be a particularly good person. One of the very few things he has going for him is his intelligence. That and his talent in sport. And I'm embarrassed how relieved I'm that at least he has high IQ. If you would ask me, I would tell you like MWM that I appreciate other things much more than intellectual capacity. But deep inside of me there is a part that knows that even if I got to choose to trade my difficult child's intellect to social skills, charm, being a good friend and person; I just wouldn't do it. Even though I know that kind of change would probably make him much happier person. And even though he isn't currently planning to use his brains into anything but tries to make it with other talents. With easy child I got extremely lucky. I got it all. While he may not have quite the same raw intellectual power than difficult child he is smart and he knows how to use that much better than difficult child. And he is a very wholesome boy. So I totally lucked out. [/QUOTE]
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