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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 574312" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>I have not read all the posts on this thread and I am coming in late but here's my thoughts.....</p><p></p><p>difficult child is highly intelligent. He could pursue almost any career he wanted to. He is funny and charming too. But he lies, cheats, steals and is incredibly selfish and lazy. </p><p></p><p>easy child is probably low normal IQ (pains me to write that - I've never said it out loud), has several 'significant and/or severe' Learning Disability (LD)'s. She is funny, thoughtful, caring and loving and works very hard. </p><p></p><p>If difficult child came home with a 66% on a test I'd be disappointed because I know he is capable of 86% with a little bit of work. easy child came home with a 66% on a math quiz. She had to write it twice but she did it unassisted (no notes to help her and no assistance from the Special Education teacher) - we all cheered her and were thrilled. But with that is a little piece of sadness that I am so thrilled that she got 66%. </p><p></p><p>So, yes, I feel that sadness and loss sometimes but then I remind myself...... </p><p>My husband is not highly intelligent, more like average, but he is very good at what he has chosen to do. He picked a path and worked at it until he got really good. He is self employed, very successful and well respected. He's a great guy. He wasn't successful because of his intelligence he was successful because he worked hard, respects others and their time, cares about others, and is a great person.</p><p></p><p>My sister is extremely intelligent with an almost photographic memory (according to her). She has done well in her field as well but she is difficult to be around and hard to like, and is generally not a very happy or peaceful person. </p><p></p><p>I'll take the former any day. I have to remind myself of that and I have to remind easy child daughter of that too. Right now I feel more sad for difficult child because I think he may have a harder time at life than easy child. Happiness, peace, a loving family, and the ability to support themselves and live without financial stress is what I hope for my children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 574312, member: 14356"] I have not read all the posts on this thread and I am coming in late but here's my thoughts..... difficult child is highly intelligent. He could pursue almost any career he wanted to. He is funny and charming too. But he lies, cheats, steals and is incredibly selfish and lazy. easy child is probably low normal IQ (pains me to write that - I've never said it out loud), has several 'significant and/or severe' Learning Disability (LD)'s. She is funny, thoughtful, caring and loving and works very hard. If difficult child came home with a 66% on a test I'd be disappointed because I know he is capable of 86% with a little bit of work. easy child came home with a 66% on a math quiz. She had to write it twice but she did it unassisted (no notes to help her and no assistance from the Special Education teacher) - we all cheered her and were thrilled. But with that is a little piece of sadness that I am so thrilled that she got 66%. So, yes, I feel that sadness and loss sometimes but then I remind myself...... My husband is not highly intelligent, more like average, but he is very good at what he has chosen to do. He picked a path and worked at it until he got really good. He is self employed, very successful and well respected. He's a great guy. He wasn't successful because of his intelligence he was successful because he worked hard, respects others and their time, cares about others, and is a great person. My sister is extremely intelligent with an almost photographic memory (according to her). She has done well in her field as well but she is difficult to be around and hard to like, and is generally not a very happy or peaceful person. I'll take the former any day. I have to remind myself of that and I have to remind easy child daughter of that too. Right now I feel more sad for difficult child because I think he may have a harder time at life than easy child. Happiness, peace, a loving family, and the ability to support themselves and live without financial stress is what I hope for my children. [/QUOTE]
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