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<blockquote data-quote="Heavy hearted" data-source="post: 733214" data-attributes="member: 23067"><p>Looking for advice on how to cope. My son's story......I will start from the beginning of his troubles. Age 16: normal teenager stuff...parties, sports, class clown, attention seeker, new friends. Tried grounding him...he would sneak out his window. The word NO just didn't exist to him. Age 17: more parties, staying with friends well known to our family and some friends we were not as familiar with. In trouble numerous times with drinking and the law. Then our troubles really began. Single car accident caused by driving under the influence. Our son almost didn't survive. ( my husband and I thought this would be THE wake up call.) During recovery, got behind in school dropped out. Begged him to get GED or diploma. Age 18: Got arrested for auto burglary. We refused to bail him out. Spent a year in jail, came home. 5 years probation at the age of 19. Age 20: violated probation, arrested for paraphernalia. He bonded out, came back home. Took my husbands vehicle (with-o permission) instead of taking his truck for a day of joy riding with friends. Drinking driving with friends in vehicle and wrecked the front end of his dad's vehicle. Luckily the cops called us, no arrest was made. That was it, no more. We asked him to move out and don't come anywhere near our house again. We were at wits end. I realize we were enabling him by trying to give him one more chance, and another AND another. My heart is hurting. Just seeking advice from those who have been through this before. He has only his belongings and his vehicle. No money, no job. I have no idea where he is. The same thoughts keep rushing through my mind....is he hungry, safe and alive? What will happen on his court date for probation violation? Will he be arrested again? Worry, worry and more worry. Trying to survive</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Heavy hearted, post: 733214, member: 23067"] Looking for advice on how to cope. My son's story......I will start from the beginning of his troubles. Age 16: normal teenager stuff...parties, sports, class clown, attention seeker, new friends. Tried grounding him...he would sneak out his window. The word NO just didn't exist to him. Age 17: more parties, staying with friends well known to our family and some friends we were not as familiar with. In trouble numerous times with drinking and the law. Then our troubles really began. Single car accident caused by driving under the influence. Our son almost didn't survive. ( my husband and I thought this would be THE wake up call.) During recovery, got behind in school dropped out. Begged him to get GED or diploma. Age 18: Got arrested for auto burglary. We refused to bail him out. Spent a year in jail, came home. 5 years probation at the age of 19. Age 20: violated probation, arrested for paraphernalia. He bonded out, came back home. Took my husbands vehicle (with-o permission) instead of taking his truck for a day of joy riding with friends. Drinking driving with friends in vehicle and wrecked the front end of his dad's vehicle. Luckily the cops called us, no arrest was made. That was it, no more. We asked him to move out and don't come anywhere near our house again. We were at wits end. I realize we were enabling him by trying to give him one more chance, and another AND another. My heart is hurting. Just seeking advice from those who have been through this before. He has only his belongings and his vehicle. No money, no job. I have no idea where he is. The same thoughts keep rushing through my mind....is he hungry, safe and alive? What will happen on his court date for probation violation? Will he be arrested again? Worry, worry and more worry. Trying to survive [/QUOTE]
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