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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 633979" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>My dear Life,</p><p></p><p>I am so so sorry for your sad story. My son too carries various diagnosis, usually landing in some zone between bipolar/schizophrenic/adjustment disorder/anxiety disorder/autism spectrum/slow processing/substance abuse...oops I got carried away and didn't even finish the list.</p><p></p><p>The point is, I understand the frustration with dealing with a mentally ill adult child who can't be neatly labelled. It is completely, devastatingly, heart breaking. </p><p></p><p>There are a few truths here...if he has scared his grandmother in the past, then it is right that the police removed him. That is as it should be. He loves you and you love him...that is a good thing. You are, in fact helpless to help him...sit with that for a moment or an hour. It is a truth. The less you rail against that, struggle against that, the less you will suffer. You can love him, but you can't help him. </p><p></p><p>Try not to replay the visual of his slumped shoulders walking away. Only heartache lies there. Cry it out if you can, then try to find some light in your day. Don't torment yourself with what ifs....you can't have a do over, and it is doubtful that any do over would change things anyway. It is what it is. He loves you. His grandmother feels safer. He is wherever he needs to be right now. You have done all you can, at least today. Nothing more to be done, at least today.</p><p></p><p>Tell us more about him, and about you. He sounds familiar...we all have kids like him, and are parents like you. You'll find good company and comfort and sometimes some wisdom here.</p><p></p><p>Echolette.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 633979, member: 17269"] My dear Life, I am so so sorry for your sad story. My son too carries various diagnosis, usually landing in some zone between bipolar/schizophrenic/adjustment disorder/anxiety disorder/autism spectrum/slow processing/substance abuse...oops I got carried away and didn't even finish the list. The point is, I understand the frustration with dealing with a mentally ill adult child who can't be neatly labelled. It is completely, devastatingly, heart breaking. There are a few truths here...if he has scared his grandmother in the past, then it is right that the police removed him. That is as it should be. He loves you and you love him...that is a good thing. You are, in fact helpless to help him...sit with that for a moment or an hour. It is a truth. The less you rail against that, struggle against that, the less you will suffer. You can love him, but you can't help him. Try not to replay the visual of his slumped shoulders walking away. Only heartache lies there. Cry it out if you can, then try to find some light in your day. Don't torment yourself with what ifs....you can't have a do over, and it is doubtful that any do over would change things anyway. It is what it is. He loves you. His grandmother feels safer. He is wherever he needs to be right now. You have done all you can, at least today. Nothing more to be done, at least today. Tell us more about him, and about you. He sounds familiar...we all have kids like him, and are parents like you. You'll find good company and comfort and sometimes some wisdom here. Echolette. [/QUOTE]
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