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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 193353" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Welcome! I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to stop by on your other thread to say hello and offer my thoughts on your situation.</p><p> </p><p>First, I congratulate you for adopting such positive parenting techniques to use with your difficult child. I know it's not easy, but it can make a difference -- at least some of the time.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Second, I happen to side with those who believe that ODD rarely travels alone, largely because I've lived it with my three children. We definitely found that when the underlying condition fueling the oppositional behaviors was identified and treated with appropriate interventions (medications, therapy, school acommodations/services), the behaviors significantly subsided. Having that evaluation, in my opinion, is the key to unlocking what's going on with your difficult child. While I know it's frustrating to have to wait for six months, it's not uncommon with competent evaluators. </p><p> </p><p>Third, I strongly believe there are already some important clues to why your difficult child is behaving the way she is. You say her oppositional behaviors improved when your ex moved out of your house. Your difficult child could very well have been experiencing a form of anxiety called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from the abuse, especially if it was not treated at the time. Now that you're remarried and another man is in the house, your difficult child's anxiety could be resurfacing. Furthermore, the transition to kindergarten can be a very stressful time for any anxious kid, even if she's attended preschool, because the expectations are so much greater. It's not surprising that she's falling apart and having frequent meltdowns.</p><p> </p><p>Anxiety in a child looks very different from anxiety in an adult. I know because my younger daughter M has severe anxiety, and she presents very much the way you describe. She had daily raging that has been improving with vigorous treatment.</p><p> </p><p>We're not doctors and can't diagnosis over the internet, but I wanted to offer another perspective to the ODD-alone theory. I hope you will keep an open mind and consider all the possibilities. From what you describe, I strongly suspect something is fueling your difficult child's ODD behavior.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 193353, member: 2423"] Welcome! I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to stop by on your other thread to say hello and offer my thoughts on your situation. First, I congratulate you for adopting such positive parenting techniques to use with your difficult child. I know it's not easy, but it can make a difference -- at least some of the time.:winking: Second, I happen to side with those who believe that ODD rarely travels alone, largely because I've lived it with my three children. We definitely found that when the underlying condition fueling the oppositional behaviors was identified and treated with appropriate interventions (medications, therapy, school acommodations/services), the behaviors significantly subsided. Having that evaluation, in my opinion, is the key to unlocking what's going on with your difficult child. While I know it's frustrating to have to wait for six months, it's not uncommon with competent evaluators. Third, I strongly believe there are already some important clues to why your difficult child is behaving the way she is. You say her oppositional behaviors improved when your ex moved out of your house. Your difficult child could very well have been experiencing a form of anxiety called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from the abuse, especially if it was not treated at the time. Now that you're remarried and another man is in the house, your difficult child's anxiety could be resurfacing. Furthermore, the transition to kindergarten can be a very stressful time for any anxious kid, even if she's attended preschool, because the expectations are so much greater. It's not surprising that she's falling apart and having frequent meltdowns. Anxiety in a child looks very different from anxiety in an adult. I know because my younger daughter M has severe anxiety, and she presents very much the way you describe. She had daily raging that has been improving with vigorous treatment. We're not doctors and can't diagnosis over the internet, but I wanted to offer another perspective to the ODD-alone theory. I hope you will keep an open mind and consider all the possibilities. From what you describe, I strongly suspect something is fueling your difficult child's ODD behavior. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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