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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 193597" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Marg has good advice and I'd like to chime in. I was told, and have also found out, that Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids think of themselves pretty much as your equal. It's how they think. If you try to change their thinking...you really can't. But that doesn't mean they don't act respectful. My son does. We were taught to always give him a logical reason for why he has to do something. "Because I said so" works for my "typical" daughter, but NOT for my Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) son. He needs to know exactly WHY. Even if I want him to join the family for an event, he usually prefers to stay home. To get him to go, I say, "If you don't go, I'll miss you. I know you don't want to go, but it will be really sad for me if you're not there." Some people think Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids have no empathy, but my son does. In fact, he's very caring and sweet. If I tell him he should go because I'll miss him if he doesn't, he will always give in. But if I just say, "Because you have to, it's a family event, everyone has to be there..." He'll want to know WHY everyone has to. And not telling him won't "teach him a lesson" because he is wired differently. My son is very compliant when I appeal to his logic. That is something he really understands. Remember, now, we are talking about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids, and your child still has no diagnosis. Hope you're seeing a neuropsychologist. That ten hours of my son being tested was the best ten hours we ever spent. Everyone was trying to treat him behaviorally or with tons of medications and that is NOT what he needed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 193597, member: 1550"] Marg has good advice and I'd like to chime in. I was told, and have also found out, that Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids think of themselves pretty much as your equal. It's how they think. If you try to change their thinking...you really can't. But that doesn't mean they don't act respectful. My son does. We were taught to always give him a logical reason for why he has to do something. "Because I said so" works for my "typical" daughter, but NOT for my Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) son. He needs to know exactly WHY. Even if I want him to join the family for an event, he usually prefers to stay home. To get him to go, I say, "If you don't go, I'll miss you. I know you don't want to go, but it will be really sad for me if you're not there." Some people think Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids have no empathy, but my son does. In fact, he's very caring and sweet. If I tell him he should go because I'll miss him if he doesn't, he will always give in. But if I just say, "Because you have to, it's a family event, everyone has to be there..." He'll want to know WHY everyone has to. And not telling him won't "teach him a lesson" because he is wired differently. My son is very compliant when I appeal to his logic. That is something he really understands. Remember, now, we are talking about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids, and your child still has no diagnosis. Hope you're seeing a neuropsychologist. That ten hours of my son being tested was the best ten hours we ever spent. Everyone was trying to treat him behaviorally or with tons of medications and that is NOT what he needed. [/QUOTE]
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