Thanks for the reply - I have, sort of ... I can't - he has had a lot of problems in the past. His mom sent him to live with us about 5 years ago because she couldn't handle him anymore. He was punching her and abusive and threatening. We made some major progress, but now, it seems like the past year or so it has all been for naught. My husband has anger issues - I will admit that we've had some rocky times - he's been very angry at some of the things that our son has done. He's started an anger management program, actually they call it a violence provention program, and it's helping him cope a lot more - but he's not perfect, he still will get to the point where he gets pushed over the edge and will yell back. Often times I am in the middle of it ... trying to keep the peace. Last night was the worst of all behavior and my husband handled it really well - he grabbed our son, and put him back into the seat.
I don't want him to hate us, but ... I am starting to wonder if it matters. He openly admits he doesn't respect his mom, he says he only respects me ... I think I am going to ask him tonight what he wants ... do you want to live here? why? etc.
He scares me sometimes ... he's very vindictive.
