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<blockquote data-quote="brandy514" data-source="post: 323664" data-attributes="member: 8536"><p>Marg,</p><p> </p><p>I loved your reply - and that you heard what I was trying to say. I love my husband and my son dearly ... I just get to the point where I struggle trying to keep them together. Couple of questions (being new here) ... what does typical teen mean? And also PDHPE?</p><p> </p><p>We have considered the fact that our son might have Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) - he's had severe issues as a younger child, and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 5 ... he took various medications until around 11 ... the final was Adderall and the symptoms were worse than the problem so we took him off of it ... he did well (for the most part) and has learned how to cope with a lot of his issues - he was born aggressive, apparently. His mom says he came out kicking and screaming and never really stopped. I didn't get involved in his life until he was in Kindy. I've actually read a lot about Asperger's and have a friends with children with Asperger's (not mild, they have some other issues too) so, I have been able to bounce things/ideas off them since thier kids are actually in therapy. The issue that I do have is that my son doesn't have a problem with the blame - he's great at blaming everyone but himself, actually - when we talk, it's sometimes hours of discussion (exhausing) before I can get him to understand why punching or kicking a 3 year old is not acceptable or how exactly he is disrespectful. It's awful. He's 14, and like I said, it's a backslide. I think with the two of them at each other's throats all the time, I'm just caving, I want to tell them all to go away. I begged him last night, please do not pick another fight. He knows what he does, and he knew I was serious and he was able to control himself. It was the first night in a long night that didn't end with someone completely ****** at the other ... but, it's not better. It's not getting better. I think they might have hit the wall this past week.</p><p> </p><p>He's grounded right now - he told me last night that I wouldn't be able to keep hom from having a social life, he'll do what he likes. I was appalled. He doesn't typically say things unless he means it. I don't know how to get through to him. I also don't know how to get through to my husband anymore. I'm very frustrated. I'm also very sorry I am using this board/forum as a venting space, but I really ... appreciate the fact that everyone here seems to have similar issues. It's refreshing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="brandy514, post: 323664, member: 8536"] Marg, I loved your reply - and that you heard what I was trying to say. I love my husband and my son dearly ... I just get to the point where I struggle trying to keep them together. Couple of questions (being new here) ... what does typical teen mean? And also PDHPE? We have considered the fact that our son might have Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) - he's had severe issues as a younger child, and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 5 ... he took various medications until around 11 ... the final was Adderall and the symptoms were worse than the problem so we took him off of it ... he did well (for the most part) and has learned how to cope with a lot of his issues - he was born aggressive, apparently. His mom says he came out kicking and screaming and never really stopped. I didn't get involved in his life until he was in Kindy. I've actually read a lot about Asperger's and have a friends with children with Asperger's (not mild, they have some other issues too) so, I have been able to bounce things/ideas off them since thier kids are actually in therapy. The issue that I do have is that my son doesn't have a problem with the blame - he's great at blaming everyone but himself, actually - when we talk, it's sometimes hours of discussion (exhausing) before I can get him to understand why punching or kicking a 3 year old is not acceptable or how exactly he is disrespectful. It's awful. He's 14, and like I said, it's a backslide. I think with the two of them at each other's throats all the time, I'm just caving, I want to tell them all to go away. I begged him last night, please do not pick another fight. He knows what he does, and he knew I was serious and he was able to control himself. It was the first night in a long night that didn't end with someone completely ****** at the other ... but, it's not better. It's not getting better. I think they might have hit the wall this past week. He's grounded right now - he told me last night that I wouldn't be able to keep hom from having a social life, he'll do what he likes. I was appalled. He doesn't typically say things unless he means it. I don't know how to get through to him. I also don't know how to get through to my husband anymore. I'm very frustrated. I'm also very sorry I am using this board/forum as a venting space, but I really ... appreciate the fact that everyone here seems to have similar issues. It's refreshing. [/QUOTE]
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