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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 288165" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You, </p><p> </p><p>ARE A FORCE. You are a voice. You are not a wilting leaf that shrivels up in the corner unnoticed and blows away with a light wind. You are an oak. You will surive this. Does it hurt? Yes. Is it the most painful thing she could throw at you right now? Sure. Is she doing this to hurt you? I don't think so. She's not well. There is NOTHING you can do to "fix her". She is, simply who she is. You did what you could to fix her and that was a noble thing. You WERE the best Mommie in the WORLD and you know what? YOU STILL ARE. No one took that from you. You didn't FAIL her. You didn't NOT succeed at being her Mom and she didn't fail at being your daughter. She's just who she is. Broken or not. Distant or not. There is love there. Just not the love your mind pictured it would be and THAT is what hurts us as Moms of kids like ours. THAT is what lets us down time after time and slams us on the ground. If we woke up every morning and said Well Lord - today I expect him to lay in a gutter, drink Boones Farm apple wine and smoke pot, while holding out his hand for nickles, stay filthy and pee on himself - and he got up, went out and got a change of clothes and worked at Labor force? We'd cut flips across the yard - but nope - our hopes are higher and higher until we just can't imagine our kids doing what they do. And you think...and say - OH but Star - SHES a prostitute - HOW can I EVER face the world I'm so ashamed. (shrugs) - Heck I still love her. I'd still introduce her as my neice. I'd still spit on a kleenex and wipe smudge off her face and have a burger and coffee with her. She's human - she makes and will continue to make mistakes....</p><p>Will she stop? I dunno Shawna. Will your worrying and crying make her stop? Nope. Neither will mine - I sit here and tears fall on my keyboard and I picture her doing what she's doing and I picture you crying and thinking what you're thinking and it hurts. But for all my upset and tears over both or either of you - it fixes very little. </p><p> </p><p>So what to do? Well - how about - get busy and be that oak I think you are? You know I went out on Google and Googled things like Support for Parents of Teen Prostitutes - NOTHING. And Understanding Teen prostitutes from a parents point of view and there is a VERY narrow viewpoint...either they think the kid was abused at a young age or ignored in the home. This in NOT the case with your kid - so BE THE VOICE....TELL YOUR STORY - START A SUPPORT GROUP FOR OTHER PARENTS AND GET ANGRY AND DO SOMETHING - START A WEB SITE for OTHER parents who are sitting and CRYING and have the WHAT DO I DO NOW where do I go shakes.....and tears. Maybe - invite the GIRLS to come too. Maybe they will - maybe they won't...free condoms - free food - 30 minute meetings on safety - I mean - you could do this. YOU ARE AN OAK - and I'm going to say this because you said it and because there is an if in every teen situation - but IF you were to loose her - you'd KNOW how it feels - and then WHAT would you be able to tell OTHER parents of teen girls that you DID - to HELP THEM NOT LOOSE their girls? Maybe if your kid saw you do this? Who knows (shrugs again) passes kleenex. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry - I don't mean to make you cry (yes you are) oaks cry - do too. </p><p> </p><p>This is all I could find to help you read and understand - </p><p><a href="http://books.google.com/books?id=4GWZ3NWMKZEC&pg=PA11&dq=Understanding+teen+prostitution" target="_blank">http://books.google.com/books?id=4GWZ3NWMKZEC&pg=PA11&dq=Understanding+teen+prostitution</a></p><p> </p><p>I dunno - there are not a lot of books out there - maybe write your own when you can. </p><p> </p><p>Education is a powerful healing tool.....</p><p> </p><p>Hugs and much Love</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 288165, member: 4964"] You, ARE A FORCE. You are a voice. You are not a wilting leaf that shrivels up in the corner unnoticed and blows away with a light wind. You are an oak. You will surive this. Does it hurt? Yes. Is it the most painful thing she could throw at you right now? Sure. Is she doing this to hurt you? I don't think so. She's not well. There is NOTHING you can do to "fix her". She is, simply who she is. You did what you could to fix her and that was a noble thing. You WERE the best Mommie in the WORLD and you know what? YOU STILL ARE. No one took that from you. You didn't FAIL her. You didn't NOT succeed at being her Mom and she didn't fail at being your daughter. She's just who she is. Broken or not. Distant or not. There is love there. Just not the love your mind pictured it would be and THAT is what hurts us as Moms of kids like ours. THAT is what lets us down time after time and slams us on the ground. If we woke up every morning and said Well Lord - today I expect him to lay in a gutter, drink Boones Farm apple wine and smoke pot, while holding out his hand for nickles, stay filthy and pee on himself - and he got up, went out and got a change of clothes and worked at Labor force? We'd cut flips across the yard - but nope - our hopes are higher and higher until we just can't imagine our kids doing what they do. And you think...and say - OH but Star - SHES a prostitute - HOW can I EVER face the world I'm so ashamed. (shrugs) - Heck I still love her. I'd still introduce her as my neice. I'd still spit on a kleenex and wipe smudge off her face and have a burger and coffee with her. She's human - she makes and will continue to make mistakes.... Will she stop? I dunno Shawna. Will your worrying and crying make her stop? Nope. Neither will mine - I sit here and tears fall on my keyboard and I picture her doing what she's doing and I picture you crying and thinking what you're thinking and it hurts. But for all my upset and tears over both or either of you - it fixes very little. So what to do? Well - how about - get busy and be that oak I think you are? You know I went out on Google and Googled things like Support for Parents of Teen Prostitutes - NOTHING. And Understanding Teen prostitutes from a parents point of view and there is a VERY narrow viewpoint...either they think the kid was abused at a young age or ignored in the home. This in NOT the case with your kid - so BE THE VOICE....TELL YOUR STORY - START A SUPPORT GROUP FOR OTHER PARENTS AND GET ANGRY AND DO SOMETHING - START A WEB SITE for OTHER parents who are sitting and CRYING and have the WHAT DO I DO NOW where do I go shakes.....and tears. Maybe - invite the GIRLS to come too. Maybe they will - maybe they won't...free condoms - free food - 30 minute meetings on safety - I mean - you could do this. YOU ARE AN OAK - and I'm going to say this because you said it and because there is an if in every teen situation - but IF you were to loose her - you'd KNOW how it feels - and then WHAT would you be able to tell OTHER parents of teen girls that you DID - to HELP THEM NOT LOOSE their girls? Maybe if your kid saw you do this? Who knows (shrugs again) passes kleenex. I'm sorry - I don't mean to make you cry (yes you are) oaks cry - do too. This is all I could find to help you read and understand - [URL]http://books.google.com/books?id=4GWZ3NWMKZEC&pg=PA11&dq=Understanding+teen+prostitution[/URL] I dunno - there are not a lot of books out there - maybe write your own when you can. Education is a powerful healing tool..... Hugs and much Love Star [/QUOTE]
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