Welcome, 2eboys.
Sorry I'm so late here.
My son sounds similar to yours, especially the fact that he wants to be in charge of everything.
He is a know-it-all and speaks b4 he thinks. We have had a lot of things go wrong because of that (also, because I have believed him). 
My son is the ultimate illustration of SusieStar's example: Kids with autism truly do not understand that there is a difference between adults and kids, between parents and kids, between teachers and students.
If I could unlock that, I would be in heaven.
