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<blockquote data-quote="Heartbreakinfla" data-source="post: 366469"><p>Hello to everyone, </p><p></p><p>I found this site purely but chance, I needed to find a place with other mom's who understand what i'm going through with my 12yr old daughter.</p><p></p><p>First let me start by saying this has been a really tough year for my daughter. Her dad and I split up and we moved into another home. Her dad has his own place. She see's him often so he is not an absent father. She has three other brothers that she fights with. Sometimes its chaos, but i do the best i can with everything. </p><p></p><p>She is a year behind in a grade. She should be in the 6th going onto the 7th this coming year but due to the FCAT she failed the 3rd grade so was held back. So she will be starting middle school next year. ALot of her friends failed that year were so she has been moving up with the same friends for the past 3yrs. I have her in a school that is k-8th grade so again she will see her friends that she has built friendships with so now what is happening is quite devastating and I can only be there for her and try to help her through this.</p><p></p><p>I don't know when it started but she began to be very moody and angry and not very pleasant at all. The beginning of the school year was fantastic. I threw her a twilight Birthday Party and she had her friends over. They had a great time and I thought things were good. She still hung out with her Best friends and I didn't think anything was wrong. Then about 3months ago, she started to have stomach pains and never wanted to go to school in the morning. She did start her period around that time, so I thought it might be related, but she hated her life, and everything about herself. I took her to a therapist and she said it was just the "teenage" stuff. I don't know if she knows how to mask her feelings but i am still concerned. </p><p></p><p>The end of the school year approached and I thought just make it thru this year and we can work on stuff it has to get better. She had school trips and she was still friends with all the girls. She was invited to a end of the year pool party and I offered to have a few of her boyfriend's over after. That didn't go as well as i planned cause 2 of the girls were texting there BoyFriends's all night and while the other girl slept, and my daughter felt left out and came to talk to me and slept in my bed while her friends slept in hers. I told her she needed to ask them if they wanted to watch a movie or whatever she said no they don't she started to be moody and angry again. I couldn't wait for the girls to leave in the AM to be honest with you. </p><p></p><p>We aren't rich so my daughter doesn't have the most name brand clothes but she still has cute clothes. All she could talk about is how much they had and what she didn't and what she wanted. Then last week a girl sent out invites to another pool party. I love Facebook (NOT) my daughter wasn't invited until the last minute. The night before she was talking to the girl who was throwing the party and that girl said she was sorry "my daughter" didnt' get invited, but wanted to know if she could. My daughter said yes so i took her. She had a good time, i thought things were on the good road again. Then the Facebook drama happened. Over a stupid quiz, her BFF said My daughter wasn't her TRUE boyfriend's, and my daughter was devestated and started a fight with her boyfriend on FB. I came home from work and I told her to take off the posts, and you don't need to fight on FB. My daughters posts sounded desperate and needy and begging for friendships. I don't want that for her. She has always had friends and has always been a happy child. Now none of her friends will text her, call her, or comment on her FB page, and She thinks everyone HATES her. I told her that its not true, and if her one so called boyfriend was her friend she wouldn't do this to her. </p><p></p><p>To make matters worse, the girl that is now hanging with my daughters friend, posts on her FB that she is hanging with "_________ her BEST FRIEND, almost like rubbing it in my daughters face. Not one post but like 3 or 4. Also this girl has had several parties and my daughter was not invited, but my daughters other friends were. </p><p></p><p>How do i help my daughter through this? I feel like i'm walking on egg shells. Oh and by the way her stomach aches stopped since she is not in school...so i know there had to be something going on with school or her friends? I know both girls mothers well so do i call them and find out whats going on, or will that seem needy? And i still hate Facebook!</p><p></p><p>Thanks for any help or comments....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Heartbreakinfla, post: 366469"] Hello to everyone, I found this site purely but chance, I needed to find a place with other mom's who understand what i'm going through with my 12yr old daughter. First let me start by saying this has been a really tough year for my daughter. Her dad and I split up and we moved into another home. Her dad has his own place. She see's him often so he is not an absent father. She has three other brothers that she fights with. Sometimes its chaos, but i do the best i can with everything. She is a year behind in a grade. She should be in the 6th going onto the 7th this coming year but due to the FCAT she failed the 3rd grade so was held back. So she will be starting middle school next year. ALot of her friends failed that year were so she has been moving up with the same friends for the past 3yrs. I have her in a school that is k-8th grade so again she will see her friends that she has built friendships with so now what is happening is quite devastating and I can only be there for her and try to help her through this. I don't know when it started but she began to be very moody and angry and not very pleasant at all. The beginning of the school year was fantastic. I threw her a twilight Birthday Party and she had her friends over. They had a great time and I thought things were good. She still hung out with her Best friends and I didn't think anything was wrong. Then about 3months ago, she started to have stomach pains and never wanted to go to school in the morning. She did start her period around that time, so I thought it might be related, but she hated her life, and everything about herself. I took her to a therapist and she said it was just the "teenage" stuff. I don't know if she knows how to mask her feelings but i am still concerned. The end of the school year approached and I thought just make it thru this year and we can work on stuff it has to get better. She had school trips and she was still friends with all the girls. She was invited to a end of the year pool party and I offered to have a few of her boyfriend's over after. That didn't go as well as i planned cause 2 of the girls were texting there BoyFriends's all night and while the other girl slept, and my daughter felt left out and came to talk to me and slept in my bed while her friends slept in hers. I told her she needed to ask them if they wanted to watch a movie or whatever she said no they don't she started to be moody and angry again. I couldn't wait for the girls to leave in the AM to be honest with you. We aren't rich so my daughter doesn't have the most name brand clothes but she still has cute clothes. All she could talk about is how much they had and what she didn't and what she wanted. Then last week a girl sent out invites to another pool party. I love Facebook (NOT) my daughter wasn't invited until the last minute. The night before she was talking to the girl who was throwing the party and that girl said she was sorry "my daughter" didnt' get invited, but wanted to know if she could. My daughter said yes so i took her. She had a good time, i thought things were on the good road again. Then the Facebook drama happened. Over a stupid quiz, her BFF said My daughter wasn't her TRUE boyfriend's, and my daughter was devestated and started a fight with her boyfriend on FB. I came home from work and I told her to take off the posts, and you don't need to fight on FB. My daughters posts sounded desperate and needy and begging for friendships. I don't want that for her. She has always had friends and has always been a happy child. Now none of her friends will text her, call her, or comment on her FB page, and She thinks everyone HATES her. I told her that its not true, and if her one so called boyfriend was her friend she wouldn't do this to her. To make matters worse, the girl that is now hanging with my daughters friend, posts on her FB that she is hanging with "_________ her BEST FRIEND, almost like rubbing it in my daughters face. Not one post but like 3 or 4. Also this girl has had several parties and my daughter was not invited, but my daughters other friends were. How do i help my daughter through this? I feel like i'm walking on egg shells. Oh and by the way her stomach aches stopped since she is not in school...so i know there had to be something going on with school or her friends? I know both girls mothers well so do i call them and find out whats going on, or will that seem needy? And i still hate Facebook! Thanks for any help or comments.... [/QUOTE]
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