You have taken a huge baby step...you realize you need help! Can you contact AA or NA and see when there are meetings for families of addicts? A good book is Co-dependent No More. Also, the Substance Abuse forum at this site has other parents who will have advice. Would your other two children help support you with setting limits on your son who is still at home?
Is there an affordable way for you to see a therapist? Even a trusted clergy? Don't ignore the bills, return phone calls, make a plan, follow it...most places will work with you if you are taking the iniative.
Stay strong, find little moments of peace, have some hot tea, listen to music, go for a walk, work in the garden...
Stay connected to the parents here, they will lend support, advice, sympathy...we know how hard this is!
KSM
