I know nothing about LL but if his behavior is a problem and it is a competitive team, I can see why there would be a problem. I am speaking from personal experience this year. difficult child made the competitive hockey team this past year, he definately has the ability. However this year has been a year from you-know-what with new diagnosis' and medication issues. He has had to miss some days for doctors appts, hospital trips and we have had to change games he was to play ( he is a goalie, so one game on...one game off). Our coach this year has been very good about it, but we know it has already caused issues for the spring/summer team and probably into next year.
I know how much our coach cares about these kids and I don't think he would ever be able to tell us that difficult child's issues have cost him. It is a tough spot to be in. Although I don't agree with the coach's way of not telling you, I do understand how hard it must have been. Especially if your difficult child does have the talent. Competitive is competitive and there are expectations that the league, coaches and mostly parents, lol, have. Benching your son is not any better in the sense that he's not getting the chance to play anyways.
Maybe you need to put him in a sport or team that is not as competitive or where the rules are a little more flexible? I am so sorry, it's not easy...
