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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 70080" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Where is he staying? Do you think he is in a basically safe environment? Does he have any diagnosis such as bipolar? Is he using drugs?</p><p></p><p>Considering both you and your mother were threatened and attacked, I don't think you had any choice. As long as he has the attitude that it was not his fault you two will still be in danger from him. As long as he has a roof over his heads, food, friends he can party with, he won't take any responsibility. He has no reason to. That will gradually come when he is forced to get some true responsibilities and reality bites him in the rear.</p><p></p><p>For now, put his future on a back burner. He can always go back to school. College doesn't have to occur right after high school. Neither does trade school.</p><p></p><p>If he's continuing with his therapy, I wouldn't worry too much. He is probably as safe as any young male can be. This is a good time for you to work on finding yourself again. Start doing some of the things you used to love doing but couldn't because you were busy being his mother.</p><p></p><p>Being a single mother whose daughter has left three times since she was 18, I do understand your pain and your loneliness. I also learned that if I just let her come back home, there would be a honeymoon period and then things would simply go back to the way they were. The last time she left, I didn't let her come until she had reached her bottom. She's been back for two months and things are so much better. Not perfect, but this is a young woman I enjoy being around. It wasn't easy and I cried my share of tears and spent nights worrying. I could have let her come home long before I did but I knew if I did, it would be the same old thing -- staying out til all hours, never helping around the house, screaming at me if I expected anything, shoving me if I demanded things, etc.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, welcome to a great group of people who will help you as much as they can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 70080, member: 3626"] Where is he staying? Do you think he is in a basically safe environment? Does he have any diagnosis such as bipolar? Is he using drugs? Considering both you and your mother were threatened and attacked, I don't think you had any choice. As long as he has the attitude that it was not his fault you two will still be in danger from him. As long as he has a roof over his heads, food, friends he can party with, he won't take any responsibility. He has no reason to. That will gradually come when he is forced to get some true responsibilities and reality bites him in the rear. For now, put his future on a back burner. He can always go back to school. College doesn't have to occur right after high school. Neither does trade school. If he's continuing with his therapy, I wouldn't worry too much. He is probably as safe as any young male can be. This is a good time for you to work on finding yourself again. Start doing some of the things you used to love doing but couldn't because you were busy being his mother. Being a single mother whose daughter has left three times since she was 18, I do understand your pain and your loneliness. I also learned that if I just let her come back home, there would be a honeymoon period and then things would simply go back to the way they were. The last time she left, I didn't let her come until she had reached her bottom. She's been back for two months and things are so much better. Not perfect, but this is a young woman I enjoy being around. It wasn't easy and I cried my share of tears and spent nights worrying. I could have let her come home long before I did but I knew if I did, it would be the same old thing -- staying out til all hours, never helping around the house, screaming at me if I expected anything, shoving me if I demanded things, etc. In the meantime, welcome to a great group of people who will help you as much as they can. [/QUOTE]
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