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<blockquote data-quote="fedup" data-source="post: 70184" data-attributes="member: 17"><p>My youngest son is 20 now. I first insisted he leave when he was 16, and refused to go to school. He had run away for 10 days in the spring. This was August. He found a place to stay. He took the steps required to get a GED. He starfted college. Then, he came back home. We still have ups and downs. He has a full time job, but no transportation. Too bad, he totalled two classic cars, and blew the engine on a third car- all within less than 6 months. Next week, he will be taking College classes again.</p><p></p><p>He's far from perfect. I find, the less I nag at him and the less attention I pay to his negative behaviors (believe me, there are many), the more reasonable he becomes with me. He IS a difficult child. It's amazing when I think about the number of times he has slipped through the cracks and avoided being in serious trouble. He is learning slowly to accept the consequences of his actions. He also has started to understand that he can't blame anyuone else for his problems, since he brought them on himself. No car, suspended driver's license, cannot use family car. We don't drop what we are doing to do as he wants. We don't even plan meals to include him.</p><p></p><p>He has had debts to us for at least 4 years. This month, for the first time it looks as if they may be paid before Xmas. He is civil to me at all times. He and his father go 'round often, though. I don't do his laundry or clean his room. He pays for whatever food he eats.</p><p></p><p>Oveer the past weveral weeks, we have had some wonderful conversations. As recently as a year ago, I had my doubts that we would ever be able to talk calmly. He still has problems. But, he knows that HE has to solve them.</p><p></p><p>I sincerely hope that with time, you are able to come to terms with your son, as I have with mine.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="fedup, post: 70184, member: 17"] My youngest son is 20 now. I first insisted he leave when he was 16, and refused to go to school. He had run away for 10 days in the spring. This was August. He found a place to stay. He took the steps required to get a GED. He starfted college. Then, he came back home. We still have ups and downs. He has a full time job, but no transportation. Too bad, he totalled two classic cars, and blew the engine on a third car- all within less than 6 months. Next week, he will be taking College classes again. He's far from perfect. I find, the less I nag at him and the less attention I pay to his negative behaviors (believe me, there are many), the more reasonable he becomes with me. He IS a difficult child. It's amazing when I think about the number of times he has slipped through the cracks and avoided being in serious trouble. He is learning slowly to accept the consequences of his actions. He also has started to understand that he can't blame anyuone else for his problems, since he brought them on himself. No car, suspended driver's license, cannot use family car. We don't drop what we are doing to do as he wants. We don't even plan meals to include him. He has had debts to us for at least 4 years. This month, for the first time it looks as if they may be paid before Xmas. He is civil to me at all times. He and his father go 'round often, though. I don't do his laundry or clean his room. He pays for whatever food he eats. Oveer the past weveral weeks, we have had some wonderful conversations. As recently as a year ago, I had my doubts that we would ever be able to talk calmly. He still has problems. But, he knows that HE has to solve them. I sincerely hope that with time, you are able to come to terms with your son, as I have with mine. [/QUOTE]
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