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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 282120" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi Karif, </p><p> </p><p>Having a child in crisis like this is one of the scariest and most helpless experiences a parent can go through. Often they start downward spiraling due to some trigger (such as school anxiety or medication change) but sometimes parents aren't even able to put their finger on exactly what happened. Hang in there--I definitely want to give you hope but it takes patience and persistance.</p><p> </p><p>The parent report you are looking for is right here. </p><p><a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10</a></p><p> </p><p>If you've taken any video of the tantrums or other episodes, that's always good to take in as well.</p><p> </p><p>If the doctors all think he has some genetic issues then shame on them for not referring you to a geneticist. Be sure and mention that to the developmental physician you're seeing.</p><p> </p><p>When kids start to downward spiral--especially the little ones--it's common to see regression and/or new issues related to their disorders crop up. With these little guys you really need to take the same approach you do when you have a sick child in the house who is ornery and out of sorts and needs to get over this hurdle before they're up to speed again. Lay low on the expectations, keep everyone safe, supervise him all of the time (and I do mean all of the time), don't ever leave him alone with siblings or other children, and lock up anything that could be harmful such as knives, nail files, tools, pens, and if you keep any weapons in the house it's not a bad idea to store them off the premises. If at any time he becomes so out of control you think he's in danger of harming himself or others, transport him to the nearest ER. </p><p> </p><p>Many parents will find that they won't be able to go places with their child at this time so tag team off if you can. Your goal right now is to keep him as calm as possible and for a lot of kids meeting up with the unfamiliar and unexpected is too much pressure to handle. If the new doctor can find the right medication things may turn around fairly quickly but sometimes it takes time for the kids to undo the behaviors that became habit during the downward spiral. Some children at this stage may benefit from pediatric day programs at hospitals so you might want to ask the doctor about that. </p><p> </p><p>It's important to take time for yourself because nothing is more draining than a child in crisis. Take shortcuts like using paper plates and asking friends to do that extra errand for you. Get out of the house with a girlfriend or do whatever recharges you. </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there. I hope the doctor you see on Tuesday will have some insights for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 282120, member: 701"] Hi Karif, Having a child in crisis like this is one of the scariest and most helpless experiences a parent can go through. Often they start downward spiraling due to some trigger (such as school anxiety or medication change) but sometimes parents aren't even able to put their finger on exactly what happened. Hang in there--I definitely want to give you hope but it takes patience and persistance. The parent report you are looking for is right here. [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10[/URL] If you've taken any video of the tantrums or other episodes, that's always good to take in as well. If the doctors all think he has some genetic issues then shame on them for not referring you to a geneticist. Be sure and mention that to the developmental physician you're seeing. When kids start to downward spiral--especially the little ones--it's common to see regression and/or new issues related to their disorders crop up. With these little guys you really need to take the same approach you do when you have a sick child in the house who is ornery and out of sorts and needs to get over this hurdle before they're up to speed again. Lay low on the expectations, keep everyone safe, supervise him all of the time (and I do mean all of the time), don't ever leave him alone with siblings or other children, and lock up anything that could be harmful such as knives, nail files, tools, pens, and if you keep any weapons in the house it's not a bad idea to store them off the premises. If at any time he becomes so out of control you think he's in danger of harming himself or others, transport him to the nearest ER. Many parents will find that they won't be able to go places with their child at this time so tag team off if you can. Your goal right now is to keep him as calm as possible and for a lot of kids meeting up with the unfamiliar and unexpected is too much pressure to handle. If the new doctor can find the right medication things may turn around fairly quickly but sometimes it takes time for the kids to undo the behaviors that became habit during the downward spiral. Some children at this stage may benefit from pediatric day programs at hospitals so you might want to ask the doctor about that. It's important to take time for yourself because nothing is more draining than a child in crisis. Take shortcuts like using paper plates and asking friends to do that extra errand for you. Get out of the house with a girlfriend or do whatever recharges you. Hang in there. I hope the doctor you see on Tuesday will have some insights for you. [/QUOTE]
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