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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 476769" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Wow - are you sure you can't tell him ahead of time? I mean. It just will be such a huge shock, and he might feel as if you have tricked him by not telling him ahead of time. I only broach this subject because I speak from experience - my parents did this to me at 16 without warning or prior knowledge. The fact of getting there and realizing I would not leave for months was perhaps more traumatic than actually ever being there to begin with. It took me years to rebuild trust with my parents - and there is still a seed of resentment that bubbles from time to time. I don't know what the answer is - but I think he needs to be in the know even if he flips. Sorry - I can only tell you how I would want it to happen if I was him. A lot of times, rtcs have the kids "visit" and then tell them they are staying.....maybe another route with more mental prep time for him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 476769, member: 3301"] Wow - are you sure you can't tell him ahead of time? I mean. It just will be such a huge shock, and he might feel as if you have tricked him by not telling him ahead of time. I only broach this subject because I speak from experience - my parents did this to me at 16 without warning or prior knowledge. The fact of getting there and realizing I would not leave for months was perhaps more traumatic than actually ever being there to begin with. It took me years to rebuild trust with my parents - and there is still a seed of resentment that bubbles from time to time. I don't know what the answer is - but I think he needs to be in the know even if he flips. Sorry - I can only tell you how I would want it to happen if I was him. A lot of times, rtcs have the kids "visit" and then tell them they are staying.....maybe another route with more mental prep time for him? [/QUOTE]
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