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<blockquote data-quote="worriedsister" data-source="post: 130310" data-attributes="member: 4763"><p>I only just discovered this website this morning in hopes of finding help for my sister and her son.</p><p> </p><p>My sister is a mother of an ADHD child, who just turned 18. He is a senior in high school with not much chance of graduating.</p><p> </p><p>He is extremely ADHD, is now openly using pot daily and defiantly (not a good idea with his disability), he refuses to accept responsibility and blames others for literally everything. He has now begun to get extremely aggressive and argumentative with his parents, to the point of threatening in a physical manner. They bend over backwards to establish the house rules and/or compromise, whichever seems to be the best tactic at the time. Every form of action on their part, whether it is "tough love" or compromise, does not work. They even sent an email to his teacher requesting that he inform them of any mood changes, etc. that would indicate drug use. The teacher emailed back the most amazing message, telling the parents that they need to step up and basically be better parents! That the son is acting out because of their abuse or neglet. THAT COULD NOT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. Which becomes evident that my nephew has spun a ridiculous scenario.</p><p></p><p>Now that my nephew is 18, he has decided that he is an adult and will do what he wants. He is still in school and still being supported by his parents, but refuses to come home, staying several days in a row at a friends house.</p><p>That friend, who is only just 16, lives alone with a single father who supplies and smokes pot with the kids.</p><p></p><p>The most difficult delima is that IF they throw their son out, he will be most welcome in the home that supports and encourages his behavior.</p><p></p><p>My sister has spent years trying every therapy measure, diet measure, supplement measure she could lay her hands on to help him. None of which provided to be effective. Due to the measure of his disability, he will more than likely not be able to fully support himself as an adult, simply because of his inability to focus. </p><p></p><p>From my own experience with my children, I realize and told her that he is going through that hormonal teenage stage, coupled with the "I'm 18, and I'm an adult" stage (which in my experience, it passed), but she has a double whammie with his disability and influence of a juvenile pot smoking parent.</p><p></p><p>WHAT CAN SHE DO? He has always been an incredible sweet young man.</p><p>But there is real fear of where he is going.</p><p></p><p>I am hoping that someone out there can provide some insight through your own experiences.</p><p></p><p>Thank you and I appreciate your reading to this point,</p><p></p><p>worriedsister</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="worriedsister, post: 130310, member: 4763"] I only just discovered this website this morning in hopes of finding help for my sister and her son. My sister is a mother of an ADHD child, who just turned 18. He is a senior in high school with not much chance of graduating. He is extremely ADHD, is now openly using pot daily and defiantly (not a good idea with his disability), he refuses to accept responsibility and blames others for literally everything. He has now begun to get extremely aggressive and argumentative with his parents, to the point of threatening in a physical manner. They bend over backwards to establish the house rules and/or compromise, whichever seems to be the best tactic at the time. Every form of action on their part, whether it is "tough love" or compromise, does not work. They even sent an email to his teacher requesting that he inform them of any mood changes, etc. that would indicate drug use. The teacher emailed back the most amazing message, telling the parents that they need to step up and basically be better parents! That the son is acting out because of their abuse or neglet. THAT COULD NOT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. Which becomes evident that my nephew has spun a ridiculous scenario. Now that my nephew is 18, he has decided that he is an adult and will do what he wants. He is still in school and still being supported by his parents, but refuses to come home, staying several days in a row at a friends house. That friend, who is only just 16, lives alone with a single father who supplies and smokes pot with the kids. The most difficult delima is that IF they throw their son out, he will be most welcome in the home that supports and encourages his behavior. My sister has spent years trying every therapy measure, diet measure, supplement measure she could lay her hands on to help him. None of which provided to be effective. Due to the measure of his disability, he will more than likely not be able to fully support himself as an adult, simply because of his inability to focus. From my own experience with my children, I realize and told her that he is going through that hormonal teenage stage, coupled with the "I'm 18, and I'm an adult" stage (which in my experience, it passed), but she has a double whammie with his disability and influence of a juvenile pot smoking parent. WHAT CAN SHE DO? He has always been an incredible sweet young man. But there is real fear of where he is going. I am hoping that someone out there can provide some insight through your own experiences. Thank you and I appreciate your reading to this point, worriedsister [/QUOTE]
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