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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 132119" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, I have a 23 year old daughter who still cares what we think of her. I'm so sorry your mother is giving your a label and that you don't get along with her. ODD is usually a label given to kids ALONG with another diagnosis. Your mom is not a professional and if she's the only person you don't get along with, you don't have it. I'm sorry she's making you feel bad. I had a very critical mother and, in the end, it was too painful to talk to her. You can limit your contact to maybe once a week and lay down some rules. After all, you're an adult now. You can say calmly, "Mom, if you criticize me, I'd like you to know in advance that I will quietly set down the phone." And then do it, politely. She'll either stop or else she's too difficult to have a relationship with anyways. Sadly, sometimes we have to distance ourselves from family. Sometimes they are so damaging to us, we need to cut them off. If I were you, I'd get into therapy to help you get over the guilt. Thanks for posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 132119, member: 1550"] Hon, I have a 23 year old daughter who still cares what we think of her. I'm so sorry your mother is giving your a label and that you don't get along with her. ODD is usually a label given to kids ALONG with another diagnosis. Your mom is not a professional and if she's the only person you don't get along with, you don't have it. I'm sorry she's making you feel bad. I had a very critical mother and, in the end, it was too painful to talk to her. You can limit your contact to maybe once a week and lay down some rules. After all, you're an adult now. You can say calmly, "Mom, if you criticize me, I'd like you to know in advance that I will quietly set down the phone." And then do it, politely. She'll either stop or else she's too difficult to have a relationship with anyways. Sadly, sometimes we have to distance ourselves from family. Sometimes they are so damaging to us, we need to cut them off. If I were you, I'd get into therapy to help you get over the guilt. Thanks for posting. [/QUOTE]
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