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Help: my 23 year old daughter is stealing
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 719980" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Prison is where a HUGE portion of the alcoholics in the world go through detox. I suspect your daughter started the process there and got violent with someone. Then she was moved to either a hospital ward or a detox center where she could be supervised. </p><p></p><p>Jail was where my brother got sober for the first time in many years also. He called it the County Betty Ford Clinic. Even in our less than glamorous county, the staff kept watch over him and made sure he was medically safe and did not hurt himself or others. Your daughter was violent when she went in, and she has a tendency to react violently to any limits, so she probably got violent inside. It may be why she is still there. She may have earned more time inside. Or maybe she is in a hospital. Either way, she isn't with you. So focus on yourself and your husband.</p><p></p><p>Get a therapist ASAP. Even before that, go to an alanon meeting. So you are an atheist. Consider your higher power to be the lightbulb over your head. Or whatever comes to mind. Then focus on what they are saying and get over the trivial stuff you are focusing on. If you cannot go to alanon for yourself, go for your daughter. She has a better long term chance of getting and staying sober if you get yourself into a 12 step program and keep going to the program. Open up, give it a chance. It cannot hurt you to try. Let your armor down just a little bit and see if if can help. I promise it is a change, and a new way of thinking, but in the long run it just might save your daughter's life. And your and your husband's lives.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs))))) I know this is all so very stressful. Please do something nice for yourself while your daughter is away. Every day she is gone, take some time to just enjoy the peace and quiet. Soak it in, and revel in it. Don't feel guilty for enjoying it!!!! I know you will think you should, but you shouldn't! I promise! I have been there, and it really is okay to take the time to be kind to yourself and enjoy the peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 719980, member: 1233"] Prison is where a HUGE portion of the alcoholics in the world go through detox. I suspect your daughter started the process there and got violent with someone. Then she was moved to either a hospital ward or a detox center where she could be supervised. Jail was where my brother got sober for the first time in many years also. He called it the County Betty Ford Clinic. Even in our less than glamorous county, the staff kept watch over him and made sure he was medically safe and did not hurt himself or others. Your daughter was violent when she went in, and she has a tendency to react violently to any limits, so she probably got violent inside. It may be why she is still there. She may have earned more time inside. Or maybe she is in a hospital. Either way, she isn't with you. So focus on yourself and your husband. Get a therapist ASAP. Even before that, go to an alanon meeting. So you are an atheist. Consider your higher power to be the lightbulb over your head. Or whatever comes to mind. Then focus on what they are saying and get over the trivial stuff you are focusing on. If you cannot go to alanon for yourself, go for your daughter. She has a better long term chance of getting and staying sober if you get yourself into a 12 step program and keep going to the program. Open up, give it a chance. It cannot hurt you to try. Let your armor down just a little bit and see if if can help. I promise it is a change, and a new way of thinking, but in the long run it just might save your daughter's life. And your and your husband's lives. (((((hugs))))) I know this is all so very stressful. Please do something nice for yourself while your daughter is away. Every day she is gone, take some time to just enjoy the peace and quiet. Soak it in, and revel in it. Don't feel guilty for enjoying it!!!! I know you will think you should, but you shouldn't! I promise! I have been there, and it really is okay to take the time to be kind to yourself and enjoy the peace. [/QUOTE]
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