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Help, my 8 year old is a thief.
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 61121" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>One thing I learned was to not threaten to take things away. It killed me when she did X again and I had to follow through. The reality was she couldn't not take something she liked. There was no way she could stop herself any more than you or I could stop ourselves from running in front of the bus to save our daughters.</p><p></p><p>Rather than give my daughter a chance to lie about how she got something, I would simply tell her we had to take it back and we would. She would apologize to whomever and write a note of apology. That would be the end of it until the next event.</p><p></p><p>It did take a therapist to help me understand that my daughter wasn't being willful and that her acts weren't really those of a thief but rather a child who just couldn't stop herself no matter how hard she tried and no matter how much she wanted to be good. I know how hard this is to accept. There was no punishment that worked. There was no reward that would stop the taking. All there was a little girl who saw something she liked and couldn't stop herself from taking them no matter how much she tried.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could go back in time and take back the hateful things I said, the unintentional cruelty I inflicted on my daughter because of my lack of understanding but I can't. Hopefully, you will be able to learn more quickly and a lot earlier than I did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 61121, member: 3626"] One thing I learned was to not threaten to take things away. It killed me when she did X again and I had to follow through. The reality was she couldn't not take something she liked. There was no way she could stop herself any more than you or I could stop ourselves from running in front of the bus to save our daughters. Rather than give my daughter a chance to lie about how she got something, I would simply tell her we had to take it back and we would. She would apologize to whomever and write a note of apology. That would be the end of it until the next event. It did take a therapist to help me understand that my daughter wasn't being willful and that her acts weren't really those of a thief but rather a child who just couldn't stop herself no matter how hard she tried and no matter how much she wanted to be good. I know how hard this is to accept. There was no punishment that worked. There was no reward that would stop the taking. All there was a little girl who saw something she liked and couldn't stop herself from taking them no matter how much she tried. I wish I could go back in time and take back the hateful things I said, the unintentional cruelty I inflicted on my daughter because of my lack of understanding but I can't. Hopefully, you will be able to learn more quickly and a lot earlier than I did. [/QUOTE]
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