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Help!! Need advice about my 18 year old son!
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 657717" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Stressed Mom, thanks for posting that video. I really enjoyed it. I hope your son will sit down with you and watch it. Don't expect a miracle, but I do believe that we are what we read, view, eat, focus on. We are what we consume. You never know how each little bit may influence him---maybe not now, but over time.</p><p></p><p>My son went to rehab multiple times. I wrote him letters. I sent him quotes and sayings. I had my dad sit him down and talk to him. I gave him books about people who were on drugs, people who had spiritual conversions, books on making a great life for yourself. I am a communicator by profession and I consume information. I thought if I could shovel enough good stuff inside him that would change him.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't work. </p><p></p><p>That said, show him the video. Watch him watch it if he will agree to. See what he does and says. You never know. </p><p></p><p>I never recommend giving up. I do recommend stepping away and letting go. It's hard to know the difference in those two things sometimes. It really is.</p><p></p><p>Also, don't beat yourself up about any of it, even (especially) from a professional standpoint. You are his mother. Of course you never expected any of this. I think it would be very hard to be clinical about your own son. </p><p></p><p>Work to start lowering your expectations---it is the way to have a much happier life in all of our relationships. </p><p></p><p>And keep sharing here---we're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 657717, member: 17542"] Stressed Mom, thanks for posting that video. I really enjoyed it. I hope your son will sit down with you and watch it. Don't expect a miracle, but I do believe that we are what we read, view, eat, focus on. We are what we consume. You never know how each little bit may influence him---maybe not now, but over time. My son went to rehab multiple times. I wrote him letters. I sent him quotes and sayings. I had my dad sit him down and talk to him. I gave him books about people who were on drugs, people who had spiritual conversions, books on making a great life for yourself. I am a communicator by profession and I consume information. I thought if I could shovel enough good stuff inside him that would change him. It doesn't work. That said, show him the video. Watch him watch it if he will agree to. See what he does and says. You never know. I never recommend giving up. I do recommend stepping away and letting go. It's hard to know the difference in those two things sometimes. It really is. Also, don't beat yourself up about any of it, even (especially) from a professional standpoint. You are his mother. Of course you never expected any of this. I think it would be very hard to be clinical about your own son. Work to start lowering your expectations---it is the way to have a much happier life in all of our relationships. And keep sharing here---we're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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