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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 542180" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>(((hugs)))</p><p></p><p>This must be so stressful for you!</p><p></p><p>Each time our difficult child was hospitalized - the psychiatric hospital would advise us to play "Fresh Start" <em>{Oh how I HATE that phrase!}</em> and they would tell us to clean the bedroom and make sure the house was nice and welcoming and pretend like nothing happened so that we could all get off on the right foot when difficult child came home. And the first few times - that's exactly what we did and of course it was a DISASTER. difficult child came home - was angry that we had been in her bedroom...and immediately looked for apologies and special priviledges to make up for the horrible things we had done to her by taking her to the hospital.</p><p></p><p>The last couple of times? We didn't clean her room - we just went through it and removed anything we didn't want her to have (mostly inappropriate items). We also upped the requirements for chores and set more restrictions - telling her that now that she was home....things would be different. If she didn't like it - she could turn right around and go back.</p><p></p><p>For us - the tough approach got much better results than the "Fresh Start - All is Forgiven" approach.</p><p></p><p>I would tell you to decide what sorts of "new expectations" you now have - and be ready to welcome difficult child home with a open arms...and a meeting about the "new rules" of your home.</p><p></p><p>Good luck! Stay strong!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 542180, member: 6546"] (((hugs))) This must be so stressful for you! Each time our difficult child was hospitalized - the psychiatric hospital would advise us to play "Fresh Start" [I]{Oh how I HATE that phrase!}[/I] and they would tell us to clean the bedroom and make sure the house was nice and welcoming and pretend like nothing happened so that we could all get off on the right foot when difficult child came home. And the first few times - that's exactly what we did and of course it was a DISASTER. difficult child came home - was angry that we had been in her bedroom...and immediately looked for apologies and special priviledges to make up for the horrible things we had done to her by taking her to the hospital. The last couple of times? We didn't clean her room - we just went through it and removed anything we didn't want her to have (mostly inappropriate items). We also upped the requirements for chores and set more restrictions - telling her that now that she was home....things would be different. If she didn't like it - she could turn right around and go back. For us - the tough approach got much better results than the "Fresh Start - All is Forgiven" approach. I would tell you to decide what sorts of "new expectations" you now have - and be ready to welcome difficult child home with a open arms...and a meeting about the "new rules" of your home. Good luck! Stay strong! [/QUOTE]
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