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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 321014" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Men who have caring hearts often don't "get" the severity of the problems at home and seem to be less aware of the future ramifications of having a dysfunctional child in the home and impacting the other children. It makes</p><p>it especially difficult for the Mom because the caring heart is/was part of the man that made him appealing in the first place. What a delimma. </p><p> </p><p>I divorced my first husband because he wanted to "send away" our difficult child so we could all be happy again. Problem was...difficult child was not at all a danger to anyone. She was just a pain in the fanny who had to be watched 24/7 because she made such poor ADHD impulsive decisions <strong>and</strong></p><p>rarely slept! That was not a man with a caring heart.</p><p> </p><p>My suggestion to you is (1) trust yourself and the knowledge you have (2) accept that you have given your all to this child and the behaviors remain (3) the experts have analyzed the situation and believe institutionalization</p><p>is the correct answer...they are not emotionally involved and would not make that recommendation lightly and (4) accept the fact that she has already impacted the other two children and it likely will take years for them to feel comfortable and secure again. (5) put the ball in his court</p><p>and be prepared to separate to expedite action...most importantly...<strong>do not feel guilty</strong>. You have given your all for two years. The child has probably gotten some advantage from her time with you.</p><p> </p><p>Sending prayers and hugs your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 321014, member: 35"] Men who have caring hearts often don't "get" the severity of the problems at home and seem to be less aware of the future ramifications of having a dysfunctional child in the home and impacting the other children. It makes it especially difficult for the Mom because the caring heart is/was part of the man that made him appealing in the first place. What a delimma. I divorced my first husband because he wanted to "send away" our difficult child so we could all be happy again. Problem was...difficult child was not at all a danger to anyone. She was just a pain in the fanny who had to be watched 24/7 because she made such poor ADHD impulsive decisions [B]and[/B] rarely slept! That was not a man with a caring heart. My suggestion to you is (1) trust yourself and the knowledge you have (2) accept that you have given your all to this child and the behaviors remain (3) the experts have analyzed the situation and believe institutionalization is the correct answer...they are not emotionally involved and would not make that recommendation lightly and (4) accept the fact that she has already impacted the other two children and it likely will take years for them to feel comfortable and secure again. (5) put the ball in his court and be prepared to separate to expedite action...most importantly...[B]do not feel guilty[/B]. You have given your all for two years. The child has probably gotten some advantage from her time with you. Sending prayers and hugs your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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