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Help! Poor social skills...now I'm afraid to volunteer again
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 607901" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>MWM, I feel for you. My sister and a friend of mine both have Aspergers and other issues so I am familiar with what you're talking about. Svenghandi gave you good advice, I do that very same thing in all new situations and I don't have those issues, but it is just so helpful to observe things before jumping in..........every workplace or environment is unique, like a whole new entity where folks interact in different ways. I'm not anymore, but when I was younger I was painfully shy, so I learned to do that observation as a survival mechanism and it served me well.</p><p></p><p>One thing my friend did when we first met was to let me know, after a period of time, that she had Aspergers and had trouble "reading" people which made social situations challenging for her. As time went by, what she did was to ask questions, seek guidance in areas where she felt uncomfortable or in the dark. She often did not 'get' humor or statements folks made that were obvious to the rest of us because of body language or other 'clues' we learned that she didn't. We, (her buddies) explained stuff to her. I don't know if you would feel comfortable sharing that info with those you work with, but for my friend, that greased her social situations because for the most part, people wanted to help her once they were aware of her unique issue. People around her became allies. Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 607901, member: 13542"] MWM, I feel for you. My sister and a friend of mine both have Aspergers and other issues so I am familiar with what you're talking about. Svenghandi gave you good advice, I do that very same thing in all new situations and I don't have those issues, but it is just so helpful to observe things before jumping in..........every workplace or environment is unique, like a whole new entity where folks interact in different ways. I'm not anymore, but when I was younger I was painfully shy, so I learned to do that observation as a survival mechanism and it served me well. One thing my friend did when we first met was to let me know, after a period of time, that she had Aspergers and had trouble "reading" people which made social situations challenging for her. As time went by, what she did was to ask questions, seek guidance in areas where she felt uncomfortable or in the dark. She often did not 'get' humor or statements folks made that were obvious to the rest of us because of body language or other 'clues' we learned that she didn't. We, (her buddies) explained stuff to her. I don't know if you would feel comfortable sharing that info with those you work with, but for my friend, that greased her social situations because for the most part, people wanted to help her once they were aware of her unique issue. People around her became allies. Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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