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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 691351" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Good.</p><p>You know, my son is 27. In just the past 9 months or so, he has changed for the better in many ways.</p><p></p><p>Kinder, sweeter, cooperative--even empathetic.</p><p></p><p>I asked him, <em>why were you so hostile? </em>Maybe in a weaker moment I even asked, <em>why didn't you love me all those years? </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>He was stunned. It had never occurred to him that I felt rejected by him, or that I felt hurt by him.</p><p></p><p>In turn, I was stunned. How could you not be hurt when your son calls the police to arrest you and gives your boyfriend, 60 years old, a black eye?</p><p></p><p>He tried to explain: <em>Mom. It was myself I hated. I was so wrapped up in myself, I didn't see anybody else.</em></p><p></p><p>So here we are a decade of suffering, and my sweet, empathetic boy is back, a sweet, loving man.</p><p></p><p>If I could go back and do one thing, it would be to take myself out of the equation. Your daughter does not lack empathy for you, she lacks it for herself. For now.</p><p></p><p>KSM. You are doing every single thing correctly. The feedback will have to come from inside yourself, and from us. For now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 691351, member: 18958"] Good. You know, my son is 27. In just the past 9 months or so, he has changed for the better in many ways. Kinder, sweeter, cooperative--even empathetic. I asked him, [I]why were you so hostile? [/I]Maybe in a weaker moment I even asked, [I]why didn't you love me all those years? [/I] He was stunned. It had never occurred to him that I felt rejected by him, or that I felt hurt by him. In turn, I was stunned. How could you not be hurt when your son calls the police to arrest you and gives your boyfriend, 60 years old, a black eye? He tried to explain: [I]Mom. It was myself I hated. I was so wrapped up in myself, I didn't see anybody else.[/I] So here we are a decade of suffering, and my sweet, empathetic boy is back, a sweet, loving man. If I could go back and do one thing, it would be to take myself out of the equation. Your daughter does not lack empathy for you, she lacks it for herself. For now. KSM. You are doing every single thing correctly. The feedback will have to come from inside yourself, and from us. For now. [/QUOTE]
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