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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 492787"><p>I am writing this quickly-from a smart phone in a stolen moment-so please understand my quickness is not meant to be glib.</p><p></p><p>You can't unring a bell. You know what you know... Can you live with yourself if you don't say anything? </p><p></p><p>I could not. I've been in your exact shoes. I found out about my son's plan to use weed (prolifically) thru a chance computer encounter. How I wish I hadn't seen it! How I wish I could ignore it!</p><p></p><p>But I could not. Can't unring a bell. I did confront him, it ended badly with him storming out and us cutting him off. H repeatedly reminded me in the dark days that followed that I had done nothing wrong. Had we kept quiet, difficult child would still be away using substances with our "look the other way" approval. </p><p></p><p>Not a good alternative. We experienced the worst case scenario - but it meant that we stood up for our beliefs & drew a line in the sand. It sucked, still does-but the alternative is worse.</p><p></p><p>You're in between a rock and a hard place. Make the tough choice and try to stop her. You know its the right thing to do or you wouldn't be here... Just my $.02</p><p> Again- quick not glib. I know how u feel. You have done nothing wrong, no shame needed. She used your computer & left her fb page open. Maybe she wanted to get "caught"? Be true to yourself. {{{Hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 492787"] I am writing this quickly-from a smart phone in a stolen moment-so please understand my quickness is not meant to be glib. You can't unring a bell. You know what you know... Can you live with yourself if you don't say anything? I could not. I've been in your exact shoes. I found out about my son's plan to use weed (prolifically) thru a chance computer encounter. How I wish I hadn't seen it! How I wish I could ignore it! But I could not. Can't unring a bell. I did confront him, it ended badly with him storming out and us cutting him off. H repeatedly reminded me in the dark days that followed that I had done nothing wrong. Had we kept quiet, difficult child would still be away using substances with our "look the other way" approval. Not a good alternative. We experienced the worst case scenario - but it meant that we stood up for our beliefs & drew a line in the sand. It sucked, still does-but the alternative is worse. You're in between a rock and a hard place. Make the tough choice and try to stop her. You know its the right thing to do or you wouldn't be here... Just my $.02 Again- quick not glib. I know how u feel. You have done nothing wrong, no shame needed. She used your computer & left her fb page open. Maybe she wanted to get "caught"? Be true to yourself. {{{Hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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