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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 343534" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>There are things you MUST do. I have been in your position. My daughter hid the abuse her older brother heaped upon her -- for years. I found out in the middle of the night when I caught him trying to kill her. Literally. She was 6 nd he was 10. She kept it quiet because he threatened their little bro if she told.</p><p></p><p>Do not leave them alone together, not even long enough to use the restroom. Take her with you. Dad can have her stand behind the shower curtain while he uses the restroom if he is alone with the kids.</p><p></p><p>Get an alarm to put on his door so that you know if he is out of his room at night. Use it.</p><p></p><p>Write up a plan to keep both your daughter and Grandmother safe. It should include provisions for night time. Keep this handy. If child protection ever gets involved this could keep them from taking your daughter. They will want to take the child who is not violent cause that child is easier and cheaper to place. They wanted to take both of my younger children and my son was in a long term psychiatric hospital at the time! Needless to say they didn't, but they threatened it!</p><p></p><p>You NEED to report the punch to Grandmother. It is assault and may even be elder abuse. If you don't report it then you and husband could end up in trouble at some point if it happens often. with-o some history you will have a hard time getting the courts to do anything, including let you turn son over to the state (NOT that you are at that point).</p><p></p><p>Residential treatment sounds like an excellent idea. PUSH the doctor to arrange it. It will not only let difficult child get help, it will give the rest of you some respite. </p><p></p><p>From now on if difficult child assaults someone you need to call the police and at least make a report, even if they don't do anything else. </p><p></p><p>A couple of years after the 4 month psychiatric hospital stay my son started to beat me. He couldn't get past me to his siblings. Eventually I had to have the Sheriff come and remove him. I would not let him back into the house because he was too dangerous. My parents ended up taking him. We allowed it as a step before Residential Treatment Center (RTC). My dad made him do lots and lots of yard work every time he got aggressive with them. Dad had just retired from teaching jr high and was uniquely qualified to handle my difficult child. So we were blessed and now son is a great young man. The yard work was a hard, physical chore that wore him out and burned off his aggression. (As a bonus my parents got their 1 acre yard back under control for the first time in over 20 years!) I think it was one of the keys to turning Wiz around.</p><p></p><p>I really hope you can get a handle on this. You just cannot tolerate violence. Esp not to a young child or elderly woman. </p><p></p><p>many hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 343534, member: 1233"] There are things you MUST do. I have been in your position. My daughter hid the abuse her older brother heaped upon her -- for years. I found out in the middle of the night when I caught him trying to kill her. Literally. She was 6 nd he was 10. She kept it quiet because he threatened their little bro if she told. Do not leave them alone together, not even long enough to use the restroom. Take her with you. Dad can have her stand behind the shower curtain while he uses the restroom if he is alone with the kids. Get an alarm to put on his door so that you know if he is out of his room at night. Use it. Write up a plan to keep both your daughter and Grandmother safe. It should include provisions for night time. Keep this handy. If child protection ever gets involved this could keep them from taking your daughter. They will want to take the child who is not violent cause that child is easier and cheaper to place. They wanted to take both of my younger children and my son was in a long term psychiatric hospital at the time! Needless to say they didn't, but they threatened it! You NEED to report the punch to Grandmother. It is assault and may even be elder abuse. If you don't report it then you and husband could end up in trouble at some point if it happens often. with-o some history you will have a hard time getting the courts to do anything, including let you turn son over to the state (NOT that you are at that point). Residential treatment sounds like an excellent idea. PUSH the doctor to arrange it. It will not only let difficult child get help, it will give the rest of you some respite. From now on if difficult child assaults someone you need to call the police and at least make a report, even if they don't do anything else. A couple of years after the 4 month psychiatric hospital stay my son started to beat me. He couldn't get past me to his siblings. Eventually I had to have the Sheriff come and remove him. I would not let him back into the house because he was too dangerous. My parents ended up taking him. We allowed it as a step before Residential Treatment Center (RTC). My dad made him do lots and lots of yard work every time he got aggressive with them. Dad had just retired from teaching jr high and was uniquely qualified to handle my difficult child. So we were blessed and now son is a great young man. The yard work was a hard, physical chore that wore him out and burned off his aggression. (As a bonus my parents got their 1 acre yard back under control for the first time in over 20 years!) I think it was one of the keys to turning Wiz around. I really hope you can get a handle on this. You just cannot tolerate violence. Esp not to a young child or elderly woman. many hugs. [/QUOTE]
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