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Help! Son with Anti-Social Person. Disorder
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 603474" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I think I would sit him down, look him in the eye, tell him what my conditions are, exactly, "I am not giving you any more money. You cannot use my car. If you do not have a job in 6 days, I will begin formal eviction procedures. Do you understand what I am saying? Please repeat back to me what you believe I just said." Some of us have written up formal agreements, like a contract, which he can then read and sign. You do want to make sure that he does understand exactly what is expected of him and what the results of his not complying are. However, once I stated that clearly and I was sure he understood, I would let go. Any reminders each day are then part of rescuing him and controlling the situation. He is not 8 years old, he is 22. Unless he is impaired in memory or some way which you have not stated, he should be able to understand your demands. If he is not impaired in that way, then he is manipulating you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 603474, member: 13542"] I think I would sit him down, look him in the eye, tell him what my conditions are, exactly, "I am not giving you any more money. You cannot use my car. If you do not have a job in 6 days, I will begin formal eviction procedures. Do you understand what I am saying? Please repeat back to me what you believe I just said." Some of us have written up formal agreements, like a contract, which he can then read and sign. You do want to make sure that he does understand exactly what is expected of him and what the results of his not complying are. However, once I stated that clearly and I was sure he understood, I would let go. Any reminders each day are then part of rescuing him and controlling the situation. He is not 8 years old, he is 22. Unless he is impaired in memory or some way which you have not stated, he should be able to understand your demands. If he is not impaired in that way, then he is manipulating you. [/QUOTE]
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