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HELP - Suicidal difficult child out of p-hospital!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 621419" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Oh no. I just finished another post about how you could relax because she is in good hands! Strike that...(weak attempt at humor).</p><p></p><p>I agree with MWM. YOu can't control her, just like the professionals can't control her. You can control your reactions. Don't let her come home. Encourage boyfriend to not let her come back or help with car. Tell her you love her, and that you hope she makes good choices but that coming home is not an option for her.</p><p></p><p>Don't let her choices make your life a misery. Not even as an 18 year old. An 18 year old bipolar not taking medications is a big problem..I know, because I used to have one, and he has turned into a 20 year old street person not taking medications. I did every single thing I could to try to change the trajectory of that, both things I "forced" upon him (wilderness treatment center, therapeutic boarding school) and things he asked for or I reacted to (bringing him home after psychiatric hospitalizations or short stints in jail.). The bottom line is...if he doesn't take his medications he makes terrible choices that keep him sliding downhill. If he does take his medications he sees his lot a little too clearly...so he takes drugs to ease that, then the medications don't function, and we are off and running again.</p><p></p><p>There was nothing I could do with my 18 year old to stop it.</p><p></p><p>The only thing that helped was when I realized that and stopped trying to control him.</p><p></p><p>I'm better now. My family is better now. Even he seems a little better in our (admittedly infrequent) interactions...meaning he makes no demands of me.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are here. I remember well how terrifying those days were, before I too became numb, and then passed back out of that numbness. </p><p></p><p>Stay the course. Keep posting. You can't persuade her to go to the psychiatric hospital..she isn't deaf, she's heard what has been said. But try not to let her come home either.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you on this awful day.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 621419, member: 17269"] Oh no. I just finished another post about how you could relax because she is in good hands! Strike that...(weak attempt at humor). I agree with MWM. YOu can't control her, just like the professionals can't control her. You can control your reactions. Don't let her come home. Encourage boyfriend to not let her come back or help with car. Tell her you love her, and that you hope she makes good choices but that coming home is not an option for her. Don't let her choices make your life a misery. Not even as an 18 year old. An 18 year old bipolar not taking medications is a big problem..I know, because I used to have one, and he has turned into a 20 year old street person not taking medications. I did every single thing I could to try to change the trajectory of that, both things I "forced" upon him (wilderness treatment center, therapeutic boarding school) and things he asked for or I reacted to (bringing him home after psychiatric hospitalizations or short stints in jail.). The bottom line is...if he doesn't take his medications he makes terrible choices that keep him sliding downhill. If he does take his medications he sees his lot a little too clearly...so he takes drugs to ease that, then the medications don't function, and we are off and running again. There was nothing I could do with my 18 year old to stop it. The only thing that helped was when I realized that and stopped trying to control him. I'm better now. My family is better now. Even he seems a little better in our (admittedly infrequent) interactions...meaning he makes no demands of me. I'm sorry you are here. I remember well how terrifying those days were, before I too became numb, and then passed back out of that numbness. Stay the course. Keep posting. You can't persuade her to go to the psychiatric hospital..she isn't deaf, she's heard what has been said. But try not to let her come home either. Hugs to you on this awful day. Echo [/QUOTE]
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