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<blockquote data-quote="Matty's Mummy" data-source="post: 254833" data-attributes="member: 5222"><p>I';m so sorry I hadn';t been back to post.</p><p>I just couldn't post anywhere, not my favourite forum nothing. I've been posting back now for about a week.</p><p></p><p>Anyway</p><p>Ok so I went to the next meeting, we talked about why I reacted the way I did. Umm because of how you addressed me</p><p></p><p>Anyway after we got through that day. They wanted to, go ahead with seeing me, which I want to, but I was on guard so she couldn't upset me lol.</p><p></p><p>I had to be brave n block out anything that she, might say that would make my anxiety worse. So after that one visit (which was mostly discussing, about the other visit) I figured I'd give her one more chance lol and that was it.</p><p></p><p>The next visit was only just 2weeks ago. My mother in law had a heart attack so we were away for a while, mother in law is doing great now.</p><p></p><p>Ok so the next meeting, they say that the one looking after Matt will start seeing him again.</p><p></p><p>Now that was really strange to me, because, the whole reason they didn't want her to see him way he isn't responding to questioning. well of cause he is 5years old and you cant just say to a 5 year old.</p><p></p><p>Why do you do x, Matt</p><p>So one minute they say, it's best to see me not Matt, but they will work up to building on a relationship with Matt, where it's hoped he will feel comfortable enough to talk..</p><p></p><p>So there we were, Matt's psychologist had sat in on 2 of my therapy, sessions, never really said anything to me, all she heard was a lot about 10years ago, and my life history and me trying to get help for my anxiety.</p><p></p><p>Then all of a sudden, she has all she needs from me to start talking with Matt.</p><p>Um no, that doesn't seem right to me.</p><p></p><p>So the visit I just had a asked my therapist (the one who I have the problems with) what she thought.</p><p></p><p>How now, x thinks she has enough information now, when she hadn't spoken to me about Matt? And when I tried to tell her, about him she cut me off didn't want to know, about him and how he was doing.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime I have continued to talk to his teacher, he's doing brilliantly in school. And they are looking into getting an Occupational Therapist (OT) for him for his low muscle tone.</p><p></p><p>Also while this was all happening, the Occupational Therapist (OT) we have been paying privately, to come to our house (as recommended by the Pead, for his low tone and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) type stuff</p><p>) moved away.</p><p></p><p>I'm waiting on a report that will, give me all the information she has recorded. Cause at the moment I'm like a record player saying, he has sensory problems the Occupational Therapist (OT) hasn't returned my phone calls, hadn't returned my emails the psychologist, I'm seeing, had been getting emails from her, so this just made me more anxious.</p><p></p><p>I worried she might think I was making it up lol. Lucky another lady from Disabilities was casing on the Occupational Therapist (OT) cause all these other parents hadn't heard from her. It just made me feel not so alone and like a liar.</p><p></p><p>So finally 2 days ago, I get through to the Occupational Therapist (OT) her world was crashing down on her, and she felt terrible, and I felt for her, but hey a single email saying I'm here I'm getting to you know just something. Maybe she just couldn't deal with all of us that wanted from her.</p><p></p><p>So back to my visit.</p><p></p><p>I also told her that, I didn't feel they were listening to me about Matthew. When I first went there I said to them, that he had been doing all these things and that most of them had gone and it was the Pead (pls call her to confirm) that suggested the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and I was just acting because of past history.</p><p></p><p>Also that the Pead and said once he started school, that it was very possible that it would all stop.</p><p></p><p>I actually didn't believe her, but it has or rather had (until we pulled him out for 2weeks to go see mother in law in Brisbane, and his routine was tossed aside)</p><p></p><p>So I went on to say to her, right nothing is going on with Matt, he has one odd thing he does and that is blowing into a cup before he drinks from it, but only if someone drank from it first. That is it! Oh and his bad eating habits, but again he isn't sicking up from the sight of new foods.</p><p></p><p>So she said to me, that they wouldn't see Matt because they only deal with people , where the behaviour is effecting their daily life, Which it was when I first contacted them.</p><p></p><p>So that is it, Matt wont be seeing them, which is great because Matt is doing really well. I'm actually very surprised and wish now I had of just not reacted and waited like the Pead said, to see how he did once at school.</p><p></p><p>I tell you what, after my eldest and me taking to year 5 (11years old) to get him help, cause I was in denial about ADHD I really thought it was the right thing to do to act early. Everything I read says get help early, Early intervention is so important.</p><p></p><p>But if I had my time again I wouldn't bother, I'd wait until someone else noticed first.</p><p></p><p>But seriously I know that sounds like bad parenting but it's just not worth it. Plus what help did we get by asking for help? None.</p><p></p><p>These same lady's and I reminded them to, when I rang when it all started. They said what are you doing? I told them over the phone and they were like you are doing everything we would suggest, we would say try posters on the toilet walls, to distract him, like your doing and x, y and Z.</p><p></p><p>Then I never had a call from them to find out about him, and net thing they says it's all Learnt behaviour Grr crazy.</p><p></p><p>Well and as for me, I'm still seeing her, she was actually wonderful last visit, and no, not just because she doesn't want to see Matt lol.</p><p></p><p>She did say she had been to a seminar, with some guy from the states, that is a psychologist or psychiatrist and she had so much information and idea's to help me with my anxiety it's like she got it lol she even commented on how things went so badly and yeah She got it finally.</p><p></p><p>Anyway since all this began with them and the Learnt behaviour **** ,I have defiantly felt sad and not liking things I used to. The big word start of depression and I cant stop thinking about how she asked me ;How I felt about having 4 kids with problems.</p><p></p><p>So now I'm fight back out of mild depression, forcing myself to do the things I know I once liked. and its helping slowly.</p><p></p><p>thanks again to you all for being here, sorry I hadn't updated sooner.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Matty's Mummy, post: 254833, member: 5222"] I';m so sorry I hadn';t been back to post. I just couldn't post anywhere, not my favourite forum nothing. I've been posting back now for about a week. Anyway Ok so I went to the next meeting, we talked about why I reacted the way I did. Umm because of how you addressed me Anyway after we got through that day. They wanted to, go ahead with seeing me, which I want to, but I was on guard so she couldn't upset me lol. I had to be brave n block out anything that she, might say that would make my anxiety worse. So after that one visit (which was mostly discussing, about the other visit) I figured I'd give her one more chance lol and that was it. The next visit was only just 2weeks ago. My mother in law had a heart attack so we were away for a while, mother in law is doing great now. Ok so the next meeting, they say that the one looking after Matt will start seeing him again. Now that was really strange to me, because, the whole reason they didn't want her to see him way he isn't responding to questioning. well of cause he is 5years old and you cant just say to a 5 year old. Why do you do x, Matt So one minute they say, it's best to see me not Matt, but they will work up to building on a relationship with Matt, where it's hoped he will feel comfortable enough to talk.. So there we were, Matt's psychologist had sat in on 2 of my therapy, sessions, never really said anything to me, all she heard was a lot about 10years ago, and my life history and me trying to get help for my anxiety. Then all of a sudden, she has all she needs from me to start talking with Matt. Um no, that doesn't seem right to me. So the visit I just had a asked my therapist (the one who I have the problems with) what she thought. How now, x thinks she has enough information now, when she hadn't spoken to me about Matt? And when I tried to tell her, about him she cut me off didn't want to know, about him and how he was doing. In the meantime I have continued to talk to his teacher, he's doing brilliantly in school. And they are looking into getting an Occupational Therapist (OT) for him for his low muscle tone. Also while this was all happening, the Occupational Therapist (OT) we have been paying privately, to come to our house (as recommended by the Pead, for his low tone and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) type stuff ) moved away. I'm waiting on a report that will, give me all the information she has recorded. Cause at the moment I'm like a record player saying, he has sensory problems the Occupational Therapist (OT) hasn't returned my phone calls, hadn't returned my emails the psychologist, I'm seeing, had been getting emails from her, so this just made me more anxious. I worried she might think I was making it up lol. Lucky another lady from Disabilities was casing on the Occupational Therapist (OT) cause all these other parents hadn't heard from her. It just made me feel not so alone and like a liar. So finally 2 days ago, I get through to the Occupational Therapist (OT) her world was crashing down on her, and she felt terrible, and I felt for her, but hey a single email saying I'm here I'm getting to you know just something. Maybe she just couldn't deal with all of us that wanted from her. So back to my visit. I also told her that, I didn't feel they were listening to me about Matthew. When I first went there I said to them, that he had been doing all these things and that most of them had gone and it was the Pead (pls call her to confirm) that suggested the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and I was just acting because of past history. Also that the Pead and said once he started school, that it was very possible that it would all stop. I actually didn't believe her, but it has or rather had (until we pulled him out for 2weeks to go see mother in law in Brisbane, and his routine was tossed aside) So I went on to say to her, right nothing is going on with Matt, he has one odd thing he does and that is blowing into a cup before he drinks from it, but only if someone drank from it first. That is it! Oh and his bad eating habits, but again he isn't sicking up from the sight of new foods. So she said to me, that they wouldn't see Matt because they only deal with people , where the behaviour is effecting their daily life, Which it was when I first contacted them. So that is it, Matt wont be seeing them, which is great because Matt is doing really well. I'm actually very surprised and wish now I had of just not reacted and waited like the Pead said, to see how he did once at school. I tell you what, after my eldest and me taking to year 5 (11years old) to get him help, cause I was in denial about ADHD I really thought it was the right thing to do to act early. Everything I read says get help early, Early intervention is so important. But if I had my time again I wouldn't bother, I'd wait until someone else noticed first. But seriously I know that sounds like bad parenting but it's just not worth it. Plus what help did we get by asking for help? None. These same lady's and I reminded them to, when I rang when it all started. They said what are you doing? I told them over the phone and they were like you are doing everything we would suggest, we would say try posters on the toilet walls, to distract him, like your doing and x, y and Z. Then I never had a call from them to find out about him, and net thing they says it's all Learnt behaviour Grr crazy. Well and as for me, I'm still seeing her, she was actually wonderful last visit, and no, not just because she doesn't want to see Matt lol. She did say she had been to a seminar, with some guy from the states, that is a psychologist or psychiatrist and she had so much information and idea's to help me with my anxiety it's like she got it lol she even commented on how things went so badly and yeah She got it finally. Anyway since all this began with them and the Learnt behaviour **** ,I have defiantly felt sad and not liking things I used to. The big word start of depression and I cant stop thinking about how she asked me ;How I felt about having 4 kids with problems. So now I'm fight back out of mild depression, forcing myself to do the things I know I once liked. and its helping slowly. thanks again to you all for being here, sorry I hadn't updated sooner. [/QUOTE]
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