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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 342085" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Can he tell you what upsets him about this? If it's getting paint on his hands that won't come off, then work with him to find something easy that he can use to clean his hands. I would also make it clear to his teacher that this upsets him and he needs to be given some assurance tat he won't be forced to do something that upsets him. However, he needs to be 'desensitised' as well.</p><p></p><p>I remember absolutely hating finger-painting, because I didn't like the squishy feel and I didn't like the risk of getting paint on my clothes and in places not on the paper. Teachers would insist we finger-paint because we needed to learn the sensory aspects of creativity. I insisted I hated to touch it and that it was not a skill I would need later in life; give me a paint brush. I must have really been a headache for my teacher when I was 5.</p><p></p><p>There are various ways to reassure him about paint being OK to have on your hands. Being able to clean up easily should help.</p><p></p><p>Another suggestion that YOU can do with him - dress him in "safe" clothes, ones which won't matter if they get dirty. Dress yourself similarly. Then go outside and make mud pies together. have a bucket of warm water handy so you can quickly and easily rinse off - mud rinses off fast. While making mud pies, encourage him to feel the way the mud squishes between the fingers and can be made into different shapes. I used to line pie plates with mud of different colours to make layered mud pies with a sort of sandy brown 'crust' and top, and a white clay 'filling'. Or he might have different ideas. The aim is to relax and have fun playing in the mud. When you're finished, take off the muddy clothes, put them in a pile and get him to watch you take them to the laundry. Let him see the process and keep saying how easy it all is, mud is easy. </p><p></p><p>The paint colour may have been a very glaring bright colour, which might have made him concerned that the colour would stain things (including his skin). Introducing him to paler colours, smaller quantities or more controlled painting (such as careful miniature brushwork while he's wearing a smock) could help. Or getting a pack of very small surgical gloves perhaps.</p><p></p><p>We were able to buy very small gardening gloves for children. They may be an option for him.</p><p></p><p>He needs to be able to play with paint or modelling clay that won't stain and can be easily cleaned up. He needs this experience to help de-sensitise him.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 342085, member: 1991"] Can he tell you what upsets him about this? If it's getting paint on his hands that won't come off, then work with him to find something easy that he can use to clean his hands. I would also make it clear to his teacher that this upsets him and he needs to be given some assurance tat he won't be forced to do something that upsets him. However, he needs to be 'desensitised' as well. I remember absolutely hating finger-painting, because I didn't like the squishy feel and I didn't like the risk of getting paint on my clothes and in places not on the paper. Teachers would insist we finger-paint because we needed to learn the sensory aspects of creativity. I insisted I hated to touch it and that it was not a skill I would need later in life; give me a paint brush. I must have really been a headache for my teacher when I was 5. There are various ways to reassure him about paint being OK to have on your hands. Being able to clean up easily should help. Another suggestion that YOU can do with him - dress him in "safe" clothes, ones which won't matter if they get dirty. Dress yourself similarly. Then go outside and make mud pies together. have a bucket of warm water handy so you can quickly and easily rinse off - mud rinses off fast. While making mud pies, encourage him to feel the way the mud squishes between the fingers and can be made into different shapes. I used to line pie plates with mud of different colours to make layered mud pies with a sort of sandy brown 'crust' and top, and a white clay 'filling'. Or he might have different ideas. The aim is to relax and have fun playing in the mud. When you're finished, take off the muddy clothes, put them in a pile and get him to watch you take them to the laundry. Let him see the process and keep saying how easy it all is, mud is easy. The paint colour may have been a very glaring bright colour, which might have made him concerned that the colour would stain things (including his skin). Introducing him to paler colours, smaller quantities or more controlled painting (such as careful miniature brushwork while he's wearing a smock) could help. Or getting a pack of very small surgical gloves perhaps. We were able to buy very small gardening gloves for children. They may be an option for him. He needs to be able to play with paint or modelling clay that won't stain and can be easily cleaned up. He needs this experience to help de-sensitise him. Marg [/QUOTE]
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