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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 113722" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hon, this is a hard routine to end. Your health, and the FUTURE OF YOUR CHILDREN is at stake. Do you really want to see your Kirsten graduate high school? Or your grandchildren from your other kids? IF yes, then make NO happen.</p><p></p><p>Drop it all in hubby's lap. Write down every little thing you do in a day, every day for a week. Things for him, his parents, your family, you. Ask hubby if he wants to do all this AND his job?? Cause that is what will happen if you don't set some limits.</p><p></p><p>Make sure you start cooking food that they will find yucky. It is a wonderful idea.</p><p></p><p>Creative incompetence is something men have used for years. Children too. Whatever they want you to do, do it WRONG. Pay the bill, but not enough. Or pay the phone when they ask for the electric. They can pay these things by mail. People do it all the time. They can even pay by (gasp!) phone, thus needing NO ONE to drive in to town.</p><p></p><p>Bring the wrong stuff from the store. You are getting the drill now.</p><p></p><p>Act confused when they confront you. Say your blood pressure is high and you just are not understanding. If they yell, or get nasty, just LEAVE. Go home.</p><p></p><p>There is a reason the other children and their families do not do things for them. It is NOT just YOU. Some of it is THEM. </p><p></p><p>If your husband is upset with you act confused. Tell him you are doing your best, but since he can do better, you will send them to his phone. Or give him a list.</p><p></p><p>Your health is a good reason for the vegan menu that they will not like. Enough vegan menus, they will quit asking. NOT that vegan food is yucky, but if you add enough strong spices, she will hate it. </p><p></p><p>Do they have cell phones? call every single time they are out, and ask for something. Can they bring you a cola, you are out. Can they pick up cough medications for kiddo X, it is urgent. Enough calls, they will not want to talk to you. </p><p></p><p>Caller ID is also a NECESSITY. If you do end up talking to them, practice this line until you are stronger: "Gotta go, have to vomit." It helps if you can make pretend vomit noises, or find them online and play them near the end of that statement.</p><p></p><p>I am here for you. By the way, could you run to the store? (JUST KIDDING!!!!). </p><p></p><p>Sending hugs and prayers!</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 113722, member: 1233"] Hon, this is a hard routine to end. Your health, and the FUTURE OF YOUR CHILDREN is at stake. Do you really want to see your Kirsten graduate high school? Or your grandchildren from your other kids? IF yes, then make NO happen. Drop it all in hubby's lap. Write down every little thing you do in a day, every day for a week. Things for him, his parents, your family, you. Ask hubby if he wants to do all this AND his job?? Cause that is what will happen if you don't set some limits. Make sure you start cooking food that they will find yucky. It is a wonderful idea. Creative incompetence is something men have used for years. Children too. Whatever they want you to do, do it WRONG. Pay the bill, but not enough. Or pay the phone when they ask for the electric. They can pay these things by mail. People do it all the time. They can even pay by (gasp!) phone, thus needing NO ONE to drive in to town. Bring the wrong stuff from the store. You are getting the drill now. Act confused when they confront you. Say your blood pressure is high and you just are not understanding. If they yell, or get nasty, just LEAVE. Go home. There is a reason the other children and their families do not do things for them. It is NOT just YOU. Some of it is THEM. If your husband is upset with you act confused. Tell him you are doing your best, but since he can do better, you will send them to his phone. Or give him a list. Your health is a good reason for the vegan menu that they will not like. Enough vegan menus, they will quit asking. NOT that vegan food is yucky, but if you add enough strong spices, she will hate it. Do they have cell phones? call every single time they are out, and ask for something. Can they bring you a cola, you are out. Can they pick up cough medications for kiddo X, it is urgent. Enough calls, they will not want to talk to you. Caller ID is also a NECESSITY. If you do end up talking to them, practice this line until you are stronger: "Gotta go, have to vomit." It helps if you can make pretend vomit noises, or find them online and play them near the end of that statement. I am here for you. By the way, could you run to the store? (JUST KIDDING!!!!). Sending hugs and prayers! Susie [/QUOTE]
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