wiggles
hi, sorry for what your going thru and barneys mom is soooo right. we've all been there it's basically your fault bs! now listen i'll admit that i as a parent can always learn better techniques on how to handle my child and am always open to new info or resources or being taught as i'm sure many of us are. yet at the same time with-that being said no school or teacher should ever lable it a behavior problem especially a kid with whom has yet to receive evaluations.
i know what you mean about insurance, we had to pay a fortune for our neuropsychologist testing. all evaluations are more and more cash payment these days as well as therapists i'm finding. can you ask the school to do testing? mine did that for my difficult child. not always the best testing. also try going thru insurance to find therapist and alot of times they can do testing and will once they get to know the kid and have a repoir with you. another loop i found to get out of formalized testing evaluations in office. they often use same critieria for testing just with-o the huge cash payment
good luck!! hang in there.