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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 197610" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi, welcome!</p><p> </p><p>Your kids are way more extreme than mine, but at one point, we had easy child babysitting our difficult child and she would call us 3 or 4 X during our only night out, and cry into the phone, and then hand the ph to difficult child and he would shout unto the ph. Lovely.</p><p>We threatened to ground both of them if they didn't cut it out.</p><p>We didn't take sides, just said they were both responsible.</p><p>It worked.</p><p>However, your kids have more issues going on so I think you're going to have to separate them and role play so they realize what their triggers are. (A word, a gesture, it doesn't take much.) I am not above bribing to get from point A to point B. IOW, "If X shoves you on the bus and you ignore it, I'll give you 50 cents. If he calls you a name and you ignore it, I'll give you another 50 cents. If you come straight into the house and walk 50 ft behind him and don't talk to him, I"ll give you a candy bar." Sounds awful, but it's a quick way to teach a behavior. Eventually, you won't have to do the bribes. I somehow don't think a professional psychiatric would recommend that, LOL! The main thing is to get them to wake up to what they are doing and somehow stop it. The conscience and maturity will come much, much later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 197610, member: 3419"] Hi, welcome! Your kids are way more extreme than mine, but at one point, we had easy child babysitting our difficult child and she would call us 3 or 4 X during our only night out, and cry into the phone, and then hand the ph to difficult child and he would shout unto the ph. Lovely. We threatened to ground both of them if they didn't cut it out. We didn't take sides, just said they were both responsible. It worked. However, your kids have more issues going on so I think you're going to have to separate them and role play so they realize what their triggers are. (A word, a gesture, it doesn't take much.) I am not above bribing to get from point A to point B. IOW, "If X shoves you on the bus and you ignore it, I'll give you 50 cents. If he calls you a name and you ignore it, I'll give you another 50 cents. If you come straight into the house and walk 50 ft behind him and don't talk to him, I"ll give you a candy bar." Sounds awful, but it's a quick way to teach a behavior. Eventually, you won't have to do the bribes. I somehow don't think a professional psychiatric would recommend that, LOL! The main thing is to get them to wake up to what they are doing and somehow stop it. The conscience and maturity will come much, much later. [/QUOTE]
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