<span style="color: #990000">sweetie, it's hard to break those old patterns, isn't it? don't beat yourself up.
in my opinion the first thing he has to do, even before the halfway house, is face the charges. he ran because there's a warrant out for him, right? then he has to turn himself in & face the consequences. you can tell him that after he does that you will help him find a halfway house placement. my guess is that he's not ready to man up. he will reject your offers of assistance & quite possibly run. your duty then is to inform the PO of where he's headed. they will probably put out a bench warrant, but i don't think out of state cops will be rushing to enforce it. however, if they trip over him they'll hold him.
do whatever it is you do to give yourself peace of mind...nature walks, group meetings, time with-friends, reading, music....whatever. sounds like your mom has a pretty realistic/supportive (to you) attitude.
hand in. oh & if he calls again take three deep breaths & count to ten before you respond. maybe keep that list of responses near the phone for quick reference.
kris </span>
